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Here is something we are excited about. Over the years we have encountered folks who are eager to tell about how the principles in Shepherding a Child's Heart have made a positive difference in their lives. Now, you have an opportunity to tell others about how Shepherd Press products have helped you as you shepherd your family towards Christ. Just click on this link to upload your own video testimonial to a special viewing platform on YouTube. We will take a look at your submission and if it is one that we decide to use we will send you a coupon for 50% off your next purchase from Shepherd Press. You won't need an expensive camera or production software. Just use your own video camera or the webcam build into your computer. We want to hear your story as you tell it. The video should be three minutes or less. Once your video is done just follow this link to submit your video. You can also see a sample video here  to give you some ideas of what to say.

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Your Children Need Hope

It is good to be back with you. As some of you may have surmised, our life as a family has been centered around the surgery and immediate post-op recovery for my wife's brain tumor. The next phase of treatment is about to begin. I have been eager to get back to the blog.  Our family also appreciates the prayers of God's people for my wife, Ruth. I will provide some updates as appropriate. We have been encouraged by the grace and care of our loving heavenly Father. He has caused us to be more in love with him and more grateful for Christ than we have ever been. This has been a blessing to us. And in these last few weeks we have been challenged to see where the real hope lies. Thus, as I finish this series on the hope of the resurrection, I trust that you can see how relevant this hope in the gospel has become to our family.  As my wife has said - God certainly does have our attention.  Hope in the resurrection of Christ has become more precious than I ever thought possible. So, with that thought in mind...

Celebrate Sexual Purity

The final point that needs to be covered concerning talking to your children about sex and marriage is the joyous pursuit of sexual purity. Sexual purity is the eager and aggressive commitment to trusting God's parameters for sexual conduct. This should be a pursuit of joy. Sexual purity must not be defined only as a negative. The pursuit is of sexual purity is not only to avoid what is wrong but to eagerly pursue what is right. In this case, what is right is a passionate commitment to engage in sexual matters as God has instructed in his Word. Such purity leads to an active worship of God in all of life. That is something that you can talk about without hesitation with your children. Trusting God with their sexuality is the absolute best thing that anyone can do. You do not have to discuss every area of sexual perversion in order to prepare children for combating sexual sin. To be sure, you should be prepared to discuss questions about the sexual sin that is rampant in our culture, but even this must be in the context that God's ways are superior to the natural practice of this world.

Talking about Sexual Attraction

Any conversation with your children about sex and marriage would be incomplete without discussing sexual attraction. This topic often lacks biblical clarity for Christians because it is most commonly discussed outside its biblical context. The Bible is clear:  sex is reserved for marriage. If one is attracted to sexual activity, that attraction can be pleasing to God only when it is focused on its expression within marriage.

What to Talk About - part 2

In the last post I suggested following an incremental approach when beginning to talk about marriage and sexuality; this approach would then culminate in a series of intentional, more structured discussions. These intentional discussions would be the basis for ongoing conversations about marriage and sexuality throughout the teenage years and beyond. The talk that the father in Proverbs 7 has with his son is example of the incremental approach. He took advantage of a situation when it presented itself. The more formal, intentional discussions have their basis in passages like Genesis 1-2, Psalm 139, Song of Solomon, and Ephesians 5:25-33.

What to Talk About - part 1

This post continues our series on talking to your children about marriage and sex. As we discussed in the previous post, specific topics that need to be addressed should be introduced incrementally.

One way to begin this incremental process is to talk about modesty. Granted, each family will likely have its own particular view of what is modest, but all families interested in following biblical principles will be concerned about modesty. Modesty, like all other guidelines, must be rooted in biblical soil to effectively point your children to Christ. In I Timothy 2, modesty is tied to a lifestyle that is appropriate for those who worship God. Paul is, in effect, stating that modesty is consistent with moral purity and marriage. Thus, when you instruct your young children to dress and act with modesty, you should also connect this standard to loving God and preparing for marriage. Even with very young children you can explain that there are certain parts of the body that are special and reserved for one's husband or wife alone.

When to Talk about Sex & Marriage

The theme of this series of posts is talking to your children about sex and marriage. As I indicated in the first post of this series, I deliberately keep sex and marriage linked because that is how the Bible presents them. Sex is not designed or intended for self-pleasure.  Sex does bring pleasure, but engaging in sex for the primary purpose of fulfilling personal desires is the gateway to lust. As Ephesians 4:17-19 teaches, sensitivity to others (the biblical motivation for sex) is the opposite of sensuality (the self-serving pursuit of pleasure). Sensuality leads to sexual perversion and to God's harsh judgment of abandoning people to their own desires, condemning them to the ultimate consequences of their desires (Romans 1:18-32). Thus, when you teach your young children to prefer others above themselves and to find joy in sharing their toys and time, you are already preparing them to enjoy and honor God in marriage and sexual relationships.

Talking with Your Children about Marriage & Sex

One of the more dreaded of parental responsibilities is telling children about sex. This conversation is often so awkward that both parent and child wonder what good could come from it. Sometimes, there is no actual conversation. A parent might hand a book to his or her child and say, "Read this and let me know if you have any questions." There is a degree of irony in this awkwardness. On the one hand, it is almost impossible to avoid being confronted with sex.  Movies, billboards, commercials, songs, news reports, casual conversations, TV programs etc., form a cultural bombardment of sexual themes that invade daily life. On the other hand, at least in most Christian households, sex is not talked about as a part of regular family conversation. So as soon as your children have unsupervised access to the world outside your home, they will begin to hear of affairs, gays, oral sex, liaisons, people being "hot," people being "turned on," masturbation, and any number of references to sexual activity, ranging from subtle to crude. Witness one of the headlines in today's USA Today (Jan. 20, 2010) - "Sex on TV: it's increasingly uncut and unavoidable." So what is not talked about at home is confronted with regularity outside the home. The reality is that your children will likely hear about sexual activity and sexual perversion long before you actually sit down to talk with them about what sex is. You know this and your children know this. As I said--it's awkward.

Suffering - a part of life

This week's Blog Special

Suffering is part of this life. Some of the suffering we bring on ourselves. Some of it comes from the cursed world that we inhabit. And some comes from the ill will of other humans.  As the theologians say, we do daily battle with the world, the flesh, and the devil. Frequently it is difficult, if not impossible, to down the cause of suffering. But there is one thing that Christians can know with confidence: whatever the circumstance we face, God has brought it about for our good and his glory.

The devastation and large scale suffering that has resulted from this past week's earthquake in Haiti has once again thrust human suffering to the front page of life.  For those who suffer without knowing God, the struggle is truly one without hope, but as I Thessalonians 4:13 says, Christians do not have to grieve as those who have no hope. It is this hope of knowing God in the midst of suffering that is the subject of this week's special blog offer.  This week you can purchase Polishing God's Monuments, by Jim Andrews, for $5.00.  Note Tim Challies' comments about this extraordinary book:

"As I closed the cover on this book, only one day after beginning, it struck me that this is undoubtedly one of the best books I've read so far this year. I simply can't recommend Polishing God's Monuments too highly. I wholeheartedly agree with Bruce Ware who writes, "To enter into this theological reflection on suffering is to accept the challenge to grow deeply in Christ, and to cherish the sure and certain promise of the gospel." This book gripped my heart and helped me cherish the promises of the gospel like few books I've read recently."
   --Tim Challies (challies.com)

These blog specials are designed for readers of this blog. We not only want to say thank you for participating in the blog, but also to encourage your interest in our products.  Polishing God's Monuments is one title that we believe will bring much benefit to you and others who are faced with suffering. Here is how to take advantage of this week's offer:

When you make your purchase through our online store, go the checkout and enter the code JY003POL. Using this code will allow you to purchase up to 5 copies at $5.00 each. This code may be used once per customer and will be active through the end of Friday, January 22.

We are grateful to offer this book to you at this price.   

Free Indeed - Simply and Boldly Human

This week's blog special!

We hear a lot about freedom these days. But there is a difference between what the world means by freedom and what the Bibles teaches about freedom. Dr. Rich Ganz has written a timely and biblically insightful book on this subject.  Shepherd Press is thankful to be able to offer you the book Free Indeed,  a needed resource for God's people. David Powlison, respected thinker and biblical counselor, says:

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