Proverbs 16 offers key, comprehensive insights about establishing authority on the basis of righteousness; this kind of authority encourages. Here are some selected Proverbs from this chapter:
Commit to the LORD whatever
you do, and your plans will succeed.
This is the starting point. The commitment indicated here is total. Commitment to the Lord because of your love for him is the focus of the proverb. This is not so much as achieving a single outcome as it as committing all of your life to honor God. In parenting this would mean a commitment to use God’s methods to accomplish God’s purpose.
Authority without this commitment is destructive!
Honest scales and balances are from the LORD;
all the weights in the bag are of his making.
This couplet stresses the importance of integrity in leadership. Authority should be accompanied by personal integrity. Parents should mean what they say and say what they mean. Forgetting to keep promises made weighs heavily on children. Give careful thought to what you promise. Nothing leads to discouragement faster than broken promises.
When a king’s face brightens, it means life;
his favor is like a rain cloud in spring.
Your countenance is a huge part of your effectiveness as a parent. It is easy to lose sight of how important facial expressions are to your children. Showing appreciation and gratitude for your children must not be neglected. A warm smile directed at your young child is a great encouragement. If all your teenager sees is a worried frown, that will not encourage him to come to you when he needs it the most.
Pride goes before destruction,
a haughty spirit before a fall.
If haughtiness and open frustration mark your parenting, trouble will not be far behind. How do your children perceive your spirit? Are you thrilled that you have the opportunity to bring the words of life to your children? Showing exasperation with your children is actually conveying a haughty spirit and will lead to immense struggles in your family’s relationships.
Pleasant words promote instruction!
This is a powerful passage. As James 1:20 says, man’s anger will not bring about the righteous life that God desires. If pleasant words are absent, encouragement will also be absent. The everyday use of pleasant words will richly bless you and your children as well help to establish your authority.