Gentleness equals power

Posted on October 8, 2015 · Posted in Communication

Do you want your children to see you as someone they can trust?

Do you want your spouse to take comfort in just being with you?
Are you easy to talk to?
Is your family hesitant to talk you when they are hurting?
If someone in your family messes up or is in trouble are you the person that helps him feel secure and safe, the person that she knows will help make things right?

You want to be able to answer yes to these questions. In fact, you sometimes get angry and hurt when those close to you don’t seek your help.  Ironic, isn’t it?

There is a biblical quality that can help you become the go-to person for those whom you love.

That quality is gentleness. Here are qualities seldom associated with gentleness.

Gentleness requires great courage.
It is not for the faint of heart.
Gentleness is the opposite of weakness.
Gentleness is the Spirit’s fruit.
Gentleness is the exercise of the Spirit’s power. Your anger is the exercise of your own self-centeredness.

Gentleness uses only the strength or force that is necessary for any given situation. Gentleness is showing Christ to those whom you love. God wants you to associate gentleness with power not weakness.


Because Christ is gentle. If you want to be Christ-like ask him for the strength to follow his example.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”Matthew 11:28-30

Ask Christ to help you say and mean pleasent words like these to those whom you love:

“Hey, I know you have been having a hard time, lately. I want you to know I understand. I remember when I felt the same way. I am not upset with you. I just want to help. Jesus can help you get through this. He knows how much you are hurting. Let’s try and work through this together. I love you.”

What would your family think if you said these words to them?

Are you gentle?

Everyday Talk

Jay Younts
Jay Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger. He is the author of Everyday Talk and other materials on parenting. He has been teaching and speaking on parenting issues for 30 years. Jay and his wife, Ruth, live in Fountain Inn, South Carolina. He serves as a ruling elder at Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He and Ruth have five adult children.