Posted on October 14, 2015 · Posted in Parenting, Shaping Influences

Obedience is not something that can be used to gain a reward –

obedience itself is the reward.

What is the basis of your acceptance with God?

When there is disobedience, the solution is not simply to do better next time.
The solution is to to trust Christ for the strength to do what you cannot.
Repentance is about a change of heart, not just actions.

Biblical obedience acknowledges the weakness of the flesh and the absolute necessity of having a heart transformed by the power of the cross. If you settle for something less you have a false understanding of biblical obedience.

Obedience that seeks to earn acceptance, favor or status results in frustration. Such “obedience” is self-serving.

Obedience cannot appease. Appeasement is an elusive goal and can never bring satisfaction. One will always wonder if one has done enough to make things right.

True obedience results in joy. As sinners in need of the grace of God we know that we can do nothing to earn our standing with God.

Obedience does not make you more acceptable before God.
Think carefully about the implications for:
Your relationship with God,
Your relationship with your spouse,
Your relationship with your children,
Your understanding illness or challenging circumstances.

Why obey? Biblically, obedience flows from a heart of love for God. This love is in response to the love of God. Obedience is not a tool to plea bargain with God, to appease him, or to be worthy in God’s eyes.

Obedience is a response of love and worship to God.

The precepts of the LORD are right,
giving joy to the heart.
The commands of the LORD are radiant,
giving light to the eyes. Psalm 19:8


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Jay Younts
Jay Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger. He is the author of Everyday Talk and other materials on parenting. He has been teaching and speaking on parenting issues for 30 years. Jay and his wife, Ruth, live in Fountain Inn, South Carolina. He serves as a ruling elder at Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He and Ruth have five adult children.