The holiday noise

Posted on November 17, 2015 · Posted in Holidays, Parenting

The holiday season is a challenge. One event blurs into another: shopping, parties, dinners, list making, school plays, church festivities, decorations. And did I mention shopping? The ones who are affected the most by this hectic pace are the very ones the season is supposedly all about – your children.

When things are busy, the questions and concerns of children often lose importance. They are admonished to be patient and quiet because there is a lot to do. So their questions blend into the background noise of the holidays.

But children need to heard. They get caught up in the rush as well. Yes, it is supposed to be all for them, but they probably don’t realize that. Sin and temptation are never on holiday.

Proverbs says that it is a shameful thing to answer before listening. But how easy it is to ignore a child’s questions amidst the hectic holiday activities! At this emotional, demanding time of year, your children need to know that you hear them. Take conscious steps to make sure that your children do not become part of the holiday background noise. Listen carefully to their questions and thoughts. They can be overwhelmed. This is true for older children and adults as well. Social pressures ramp up this time of year.

If you listen well, you will let your children know that your concern for them is genuine. If you listen well your children will know that they can come to you when they are troubled. When you listen well you model the love of God to your children. You encourage them that they can always go to you and to God. He hears no matter how busy things might be. So should you! Don’t let the season interfere with the basic functions of faithful parenting. Be a parent who listens well.  Point your children to Christ.

It is a simple thing, to listen first—but the impact is profound.

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Jay Younts
Jay Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger. He is the author of Everyday Talk and other materials on parenting. He has been teaching and speaking on parenting issues for 30 years. Jay and his wife, Ruth, live in Fountain Inn, South Carolina. He serves as a ruling elder at Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He and Ruth have five adult children.