Three principles to prepare your children for the uncertainties of life.

Posted on February 25, 2014 · Posted in Shaping Influences, Worldview, Worry

Protecting our children is an unquestioned obligation of being a faithful parent. It is not always easy to know what we are to protect our them from.  Certain things are obvious: hot stoves, busy streets, harsh weather, dangerous terrain, evil people, etc.  But, then there is the false notion that children can be protected from every danger and uncertainty of life. That simply is not true. There is too much which is beyond our control.   

You cannot protect your children from life itself.  The storms in Matthew 7 come to the wise and the unwise alike.  Until we go to be with Christ, sin and uncertainty will be a part of life.  We must not deceive ourselves and our children and give them the false impression that unexpected, painful things will not happen.  They will. 

Here are three biblical principles which offer help in knowing how to prepare your children for the uncertainties of life.

The first principle, from Luke 12, is that worry doesn’t help and can lead to a lack of stability and faith. Worry will create a relational climate of fear and doubt.

The second principle, from Psalm 46, is that God’s care is certain. The psalm assumes that hard things will happen and that God is a refuge of strength when hard things do occur.

The third principle, from James 4, is that we must be conscious that things happen because of God’s will.  We must not be presumptuous to the point of thinking that something will or will not happen simply because of what we want.

By putting these three principles together, we have a good plan to follow in preparing for life’s uncertainties.

Tell your children what is certain and uncertain in life. If you faithfully tell your children that your plans will happen if God wills them to, you will help them to order their own priorities. In reality, this is always the way it is in life.  We don’t know what tomorrow will bring, but God does. While future situations are uncertain, God’s care is not. There is no need to worry. This is one important way to prepare your children for the uncertainties of life.

Jay Younts
Jay Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger. He is the author of Everyday Talk and other materials on parenting. He has been teaching and speaking on parenting issues for 30 years. Jay and his wife, Ruth, live in Fountain Inn, South Carolina. He serves as a ruling elder at Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He and Ruth have five adult children.