Your children and your face

Posted on November 9, 2015 · Posted in Communication

Solomon makes an important observation about the importance of your facial expressions.

In the light of a king’s face there is life,
and his favor is like the clouds that bring the spring rain.
Proverbs 16:15

In countries ruled by kings, a king’s smile was a big deal. A king had absolute authority. He literally had the power of life and death. So, the smile of the king was a welcome sight to his subjects. In Israel if the spring rains failed to come then the crops would fail and there could soon be famine in the land. The king’s favor was like the welcome rains of spring. His smile meant life.

You may not be a king. Still, Proverbs 16:15 is a reminder of just how important your countenance is to your children. For example:

“What’s wrong mommy?”

“Nothing, dear. Why did you think something is wrong.”

“Well, you don’t look very happy.”

“Oh, it is nothing. I was just thinking about something. Go on now, play with your brother.”

But, to your child, your expression is everything. You are the most important person in his or her life. A blank or worried expression sends a message of problems, a message of uncertainty. Your child may well think you are displeased with them in some way. But a smile, a hug, delighting in just seeing your kids means everything to them.

Let your children see the light of your face and a smile on your lips. There are times when words are not needed to express joy and favor.  A pleasant, warm countenance tells your children you are there for them. It tells them that they are loved. The way your face looks matters!

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Jay Younts
Jay Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger. He is the author of Everyday Talk and other materials on parenting. He has been teaching and speaking on parenting issues for 30 years. Jay and his wife, Ruth, live in Fountain Inn, South Carolina. He serves as a ruling elder at Redeemer Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He and Ruth have five adult children.