Monthly Archives: February 2013

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Love is Kind

Biblical love is different. It is never out of place. Even in discipline and correction, love is to dominate. This is why Paul says that if we don’t have love we gain nothing. The world  and our flesh want us to act as if love is something we give to others if it is earned by their behavior. So when our children are disobedient, we seldom think about being kind. However, love is kind. Kindness is, therefore, never inappropriate or out of place.    Gospel-centered parenting is parenting that is not based upon making parents happy. The gospel means that I am secure in Christ, even when I am disobedient. As a Christian I do not want to stand before […]

How do you love your children?

We usually remember to tell our children that we love them. However, they also hear how we love any number of things from a favorite color to a favorite food to a favorite sports team! In contrast, Scripture gives us particular instructions about how we are to love. One place this instruction is found is 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. These are familiar words:    “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”    The problem […]

Had Any Battles Lately?

I know, it is almost a foolish question. Battles and skirmishes are part of life. So, why ask?    Because, the question is not if we have battles, the question is whose battles are they. In a fallen world there will always be battles. As Christian parents, we must be careful that the battles we fight are God’s battles and not conflicts of our own making.    As a teenager engaged in a battle where he was hopelessly outmatched, David had total disdain for Goliath, the perfect human killing machine. Why, because he knew the battle was God’s! Sometimes God’s battles are won quickly, as with David and Goliath. Sometimes, perseverance is the smooth stone God wants us to use […]

Society’s views of sadness and depression have changed.

“Charles Hodges gave himself a big assignment: to explain how societies views of sadness and depression have changed so that they are seen almost completely as medical problems experienced by rapidly growing numbers of people. He documents how an increased reliance on medication has not used people’s pain but complicated it. In this fascinating book, Hodges summarizes scientific research in away that allows readers to make up their own minds, and he illustrates how biblical counseling leads sufferers the answers they seek. He demonstrates confidence in Scripture, respect for sound medical-practice, and compassion and hope for his patients and counseling clients. This book is worth reading.” Susan Lutz, Biblical Counselor, pastor’s wife, editor


Age thirteen is an important milestone in the life of your child. At this age your child becomes a teenager. He or she is beginning to emerge into adulthood. These years are difficult; the process of maturing from child to adult is challenging. Think of all that has to happen in a few short years. The parent-child relationship must change from total dependence, obedience and submission to relative independence; respect and honor instead of immediate obedience; and unmediated accountability to God and church, apart from the parents.   This is a drastic change. Sometime it seems that within mere moments your child has left home and been replaced with this teenager person. This person is the same one that was […]

Another Thought for the Lord’s Day

  Who is a God like you,    who pardons sin and forgives the transgression    of the remnant of his inheritance?You do not stay angry forever    but delight to show mercy.19 You will again have compassion on us;    you will tread our sins underfoot    and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea. Micah 7:18-19

The Super Bowl – Making a Name for Ourselves

The Super Bowl is a spectacle. Over 100 million people will see the game on television. Advertisers will pay 3.5 to 4 million dollars for a 30 second commercial. In fact, for many,  the commercials are more interesting than the game. The half-time show includes iconic entertainers. Millions upon millions of dollars are bet on the event. The media coverage is non-stop.    The popularity of the Super Bowl tells us much about ourselves. It is an event where we come together in a common interest. Coming together, however, is not always a good thing. In the ancient city of Babel it’s citizens came together to make a name for themselves. God instructed both Adam and Noah, and by implication […]

Children Must Be Trained Before They Can Be Enjoyed

The purpose of the family is 1) to maintain and nourish the one-flesh relationship between husband and wife, and 2) to prepare children to leave the home of their parents and establish their own home. The family does not exist for itself. Genesis 2:24 teaches that the husband-wife relationship does not exist primarily for children. Children are only temporary residents. A husband and wife are to remain together after the children have left. Parents, note this well: God wants your children to leave home. They are to move on. Parents are the ones who stay put.   When children become the primary purpose of family life, the focus of parents shifts to the enjoyment of children. Children become an end […]