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Authority for building up

He who answers before listening—        that is his folly and his shame. Proverbs 18:13 This post is directed to husbands and fathers. However, wives and moms are free to read as well. You may even want to forward this post to your husbands. Men, God has charged us with leading our families. The biblical basis for our leadership is found in such passages as Eph. 5:25-33 and Eph. 6:4. This leadership is an awesome responsibility. We are to represent Christ to our wives and children. In 2 Cor. 13:10 we learn that biblical leadership is to have the focus of building others up and not tearing them down. Paul says in Ephesians 4:29 that our words are […]

The Fear of the Lord and Worldview

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge,   but fools despise wisdom and discipline. Proverbs 1:7 The cornerstone of a biblical worldview must be the fear of the Lord. Understanding how this world really works is impossible without the fear of the Lord. Recall the definition of worldview from the last post: the overall perspective from which one sees and interprets the world. If your children interpret their world without the fear of the Lord they will never be wise. Practically speaking, this means that the observations and conclusions that they draw from their experiences will be flawed. If the fear of the Lord is absent, love of self will dominate a child’s life. His choices will […]

Using the Psalms to Build Worldview

Many are asking, “Who can show us any good?” Let the light of your face shine upon us, O Lord. You have filled my heart with greater joy than when their grain and new wine abound. (Psalm 4:6-7) Several recent posts addressed the concept of worldview and children. The American Heritage Dictionary defines worldview this way: The overall perspective from which one sees and interprets the world. Do you see why teaching about worldview is an important part of parenting? Your children are born interpreting their world from a fatally flawed perspective (Eph.2:1-3). Your job is to teach them a worldview that sees reality from God’s perspective. One way to build this biblical worldview is to use the Psalms creatively […]

Why do you read parenting books?

Do not rebuke a mocker or he will hate you;   rebuke a wise man and he will love you. Instruct a wise man and he will be wiser still;   teach a righteous man and he will add to his learning. The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom,   and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. Proverbs 9:8-10 The obvious answer to this question is “to become a better parent.” But will the book you are reading really help you? Processing the information that you read is a challenge. Do you come away from the book with questions about application? Do you wonder if it is really biblical and helpful? Sometimes you may be more […]

Criticism – Something to Value

11 My son, do not despise the LORD’s discipline   and do not resent his rebuke, 12 because the LORD disciplines those he loves,   as a father the son he delights in. Proverbs 3:11-12 Criticism would make few top 10 lists of favorite gifts. While the Proverbs don’t use the term criticism, there are many passages that talk about receiving a rebuke. Almost surprisingly, the Proverbs teach that receiving a rebuke is often a good thing. Chapter 9 goes so far as to say that a wise man will love you if you rebuke him (9:8). Since the Garden, our natural tendency is to avoid blame and shift responsibility to others when our actions are challenged. It is easy […]

Preparing Your Children for Criticism

Like a coating of glaze over earthenware        are fervent lips with an evil heart. Proverbs 6:23 A lying tongue hates those it hurts,        and a flattering mouth works ruin. Proverbs 6:28 Let another praise you, and not your own mouth;        someone else, and not your own lips. Proverbs 27:2 Wounds from a friend can be trusted,        but an enemy multiplies kisses. Proverbs 27:6 The section of Proverbs from   6:23 – 27:6 has some profound things to say about receiving criticism. One theme of this passage is to warn against living for the praise of others.  The wise man (including the wise child) is motivated by the fear of […]

Worldview Summary

When I was a boy in my father’s house,   still tender, and an only child of my mother, he taught me and said,   "Lay hold of my words with all your heart;   keep my commands and you will live. Get wisdom, get understanding;   do not forget my words or swerve from them. Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you;   love her, and she will watch over you. Proverbs 4:3-6 The past three blogs have looked at the issue of worldview and young children. In chapter 4 of Proverbs, Solomon gives a compelling worldview—the ultimate reality check. Two powerful directives frame his worldview. The first directive, in verse 4, says, “…with all of your […]

Toddlers, Futile Thinking and the Gospel

So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking.  Eph. 4:17 But the way of the wicked is like deep darkness;        they do not know what makes them stumble. Proverbs 4:19 Another consequence of children’s natural worldview is futile thinking. Often parents say things like, why can’t children just do what the Bible says, can’t they see it is for their own good? The answer is – no they can’t see that. Ephesians describes the thinking of those who don’t know God as futile. This fits closely with the description of the wicked in Proverbs 4:19. Those without […]

toddlers and worldview part 2

Doing what comes naturally 17So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. 18They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. 19Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more.  Eph. 4:17-19 This passage is seldom applied to child-training and to toddlers. However, there is much to learn from Paul’s words regarding training children. This passage illustrates what happens when children are not brought […]

toddlers and worldview

Toddlers and worldview are not concepts that appear to be compatible at first glance. The image of a 3–year-old sitting down at a computer to type a paper on worldview evokes humor, not reality. However, a toddler does have a worldview. It may be limited, but it is a worldview nonetheless. This worldview is expressed in statements like  – I’m thirsty, he took my toy, I want a cookie, I’m tired, I’m hungry, I don’t want to. Do you see a pattern here? A toddler’s worldview tends to begin and end with him. This is not surprising given that we all start life gratifying the cravings of our flesh (Eph. 2:3). Left unchecked this limited, self-centered worldview will produce a […]