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Open to Reason

Posted on February 26th, 2009 · Posted in Communication

In the middle of the seven components of wisdom from above listed in James 3:17 is the phrase that the ESV translates open to wisdom. Other translations translate the same words as submissive, willing to yield, compliant and reasonable. In any dispute, a charge you will not hear brought against someone is that that person is open to reason. It will be just the opposite; he won’t listen to reason! And yet here it is clearly listed—open to reason. To be open to reason, you must be both wise and.. read more

Pure, Peaceable & Gentle

Posted on February 24th, 2009 · Posted in Communication, Wisdom

Wisdom from above. Wisdom from God. What does it look like? This one sentence in James 3:17 lists seven facets of the wisdom that comes from heaven. The first three facets show the radical nature of following God.  Let’s look at them one by one. However, before we start it is only fair to issue a warning to anyone who chooses to read further. Reading—and then implementing wisdom from heaven—will be hazardous to your flesh. It is simply not possible to take these words seriously and continue to live and.. read more

Wisdom from Above

Posted on February 19th, 2009 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

The book of James has a lot to say about wisdom. Some have called James the wisdom literature of the New Testament. Early in chapter one the importance of wisdom is underscored by the promise that wisdom will be freely given to those who genuinely ask for it. Certainly, parents need wisdom to faithfully represent God to all of their children. But I believe that perhaps the greatest need for wisdom is when interacting with teenagers. Teenagers seem to appear out of the blue. Yesterday, you had a respectful child.. read more

On the Radio

Posted on February 1st, 2009 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

This Monday, February 2nd, I have the privilege of doing a live radio interview with Rick Horne, author of Get Outta My Face. You can listen live on the Internet at 1 pm, at this location: http://www.christiantalk660.com Just click on the listen button. It is a call-in program, so call 1-888-660-9535 if you would like to join in. I would love to hear from you. This book is a needed and helpful addition to the field of dealing with teenagers. Sadly, too many Christian families are plagued by intense and.. read more

Facebook & Your Time

Posted on January 12th, 2009 · Posted in Communication, Discipline, Facebook, Worldview

Walk in wisdom toward outsiders, making the best use of the time. ESV Colossians 4:5   Due to an excellent observation in a comment from Jenny, this post will address another issue regarding Facebook. Your comments and thoughts are valuable. There have been a number of good suggestions for posts in the last couple of weeks and, Lord willing, we will get to them all. Jenny raised an important consideration in her comment. She raised the concept of “me time.” As Christians our lives are to be centered on bringing.. read more

It’s Just Facebook

Posted on January 7th, 2009 · Posted in Communication, Facebook, Worldview

We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life. ESV  Romans 6:4 We were therefore buried with him through baptism into death in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead through the glory of the Father, we too may live a new life. NIV  Romans 6:4 See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according.. read more

Post Only What is Helpful

Posted on January 6th, 2009 · Posted in Communication, Facebook, Worldview

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. ESV Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. NIV No rotten talk should come from your mouth, but only what is good for the building up of someone in need, in order to give grace.. read more

Thoughts about Facebook

Posted on January 1st, 2009 · Posted in Communication, Culture

Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Philippians 2:3&4 Facebook, MySpace, blogs , online communities, texting – these are things that were virtually unknown a decade ago. Today our lives, as well as our children’s lives, are dominated by Internet-enabled communities. The use of language has changed as well. There is a cyber vocabulary that is unique to the electronic world. Letter groups such.. read more

Teenagers and Expectations

Posted on December 4th, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Parenting, Teenagers

"What do you think? There was a man who had two sons. He went to the first and said, 'Son, go and work today in the vineyard.' " 'I will not,' he answered, but later he changed his mind and went. "Then the father went to the other son and said the same thing. He answered, 'I will, sir,' but he did not go.  "Which of the two did what his father wanted?"       "The first," they answered. Matthew 21:28-31 Being a teenager is not always easy. This has something to.. read more

From Monologs to Dialogs

Posted on October 1st, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29 ESV Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29 NIV A dialog is a conversation.  Your goal for communication with your teenagers is to see grace-giving dialogs become a normal part of.. read more

Silence & Youthful Lusts

Posted on September 21st, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Ruling Desires, Teenagers

Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. II Timothy 2:22 In addition to the points raised in recent posts, there may be another reason why teenagers suddenly become silent and distant. As has been observed by most of the known world, the teenage years are a time of change. One change is the emergence of youthful lusts that Paul warns about in 2 Timothy. The word for lust used in the passage above is.. read more

From Monologues to Questions

Posted on September 19th, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

In the future, when your son asks you, "What is the meaning of the stipulations, decrees and laws the LORD our God has commanded you?" tell him: "We were slaves of Pharaoh in Egypt, but the LORD brought us out of Egypt with a mighty hand. Deuteronomy 6:20-21 A fool finds no pleasure in understanding     but delights in airing his own opinions. Proverbs 18:2 How do you measure your effectiveness at listening to your children? Besides the self-conscious concern to implement Proverbs 18:15, there is one tangible way to.. read more

Monologues and Teenagers – Part 2

Posted on September 13th, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

In this series of posts we are looking at the communication breakdowns that often occur between parents and teenagers. What once appeared to be a good relationship with lots of interaction can deteriorate to silent, disinterested teens enduring parental monologues. After such an encounter, more than one parent has turned away, asking with an aching heart, why is this happening? In the last post we looked at the command in Proverbs 18:15 to be aggressive listeners. This listening is not just for current exchanges, but includes remembering the conversations of.. read more

Mini-Post: Blogging & Bad Reports

Posted on August 5th, 2008 · Posted in Communication

In his blog, Justin Taylor has posted a timely article by David Powlison & Tim Keller on blogging and passing on bad reports. The biblical principles in the article are valuable for all conversation but they are especially appropriate for internet communications. Parents, this would be a great article to discuss with your children about their internet communication. It applies directly to blogging, instant messaging, chats, and forums as well as to community sites such as MySpace and Facebook. You can find the article here. Thanks to David Powlison and.. read more

It’s Not Natural – part 2

Posted on June 30th, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Gospel, Parenting, Toddlers

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Ephesians 6:1 It seems that there is actually one more post in this series of communicating the Gospel to your children. Heather, one of our readers, raised an important question about the last post. Here is her comment: You mention that "Heather has been given only one option." Is it ever appropriate to offer a choice? For instance, "Honey, you can either give the train to your brother and find another toy, or you can play with the train.. read more

It’s Not Natural

Posted on June 26th, 2008 · Posted in Authority, Communication, Discipline, Gospel, Toddlers

For wisdom will enter your heart,   and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. Proverbs 2:10 The wise in heart are called discerning,   and pleasant words promote instruction. Proverbs 16:21 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise— that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. Ephesians 6:1-3 This is the final post in this series about pleasant words and communicating the Gospel. I.. read more

Communicating the Gospel: God’s goodness to your young children

Posted on June 24th, 2008 · Posted in Authority, Communication, Gospel, Parenting

The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction.  — Proverbs 16:21 For wisdom will enter your heart,  and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. —Proverbs 2:10 If you have been following this series of posts on communicating the Gospel to your children, you will recall that we started the practical application by looking at teenagers and then working backwards. Now we are at the age of young children and toddlers, ages 0 to 5. How do you communicate the goodness of God to these little.. read more

Communicating the Gospel, God’s Goodness to your Teenagers

Posted on June 17th, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Parenting, Teenagers

The wise in heart are called discerning,   and pleasant words promote instruction. Proverbs 16:21 If the wisdom of God has entered your heart then you can say that God has been good to you. This pleasantness of heart should result in pleasant words from your mouth. What do I mean by pleasant words? I’m not talking about careful, manipulative words that play polite “control” games with others. No, pleasant words should illustrate the genuine joy and pleasure that results from experiencing the power of the Gospel in your life… read more

Communicating God’s Goodness to Your Kids

Posted on June 14th, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Parenting, Proverbs

10 For wisdom will enter your heart,   and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.  Proverbs 2:10 Psalm 13 is a tender reminder that God has been good to us. As parents, we long for our children to know his goodness firsthand. How does that happen? This, of course, is the big question—but the starting point is less complicated than you might think. Allow me to ask a question from Psalm 13. Do you believe that God has been good to you?

Protection

Posted on April 21st, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Parenting, Teenagers, Toddlers

20 My son, keep your father’s commands        and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. 21 Bind them upon your heart forever;        fasten them around your neck. 22 When you walk, they will guide you;        when you sleep, they will watch over you;        when you awake, they will speak to you. 23 For these commands are a lamp,        this teaching is a light,        and the corrections of discipline        are the.. read more