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Archive for the 'Criticism_' Category

Thoughts on starting school

Posted on August 4th, 2017 · Posted in Criticism_, Parenting, Wisdom

It is one thing to say that your children are a blessing to you and that you delight in them. It is another for them to actually believe this. How well children perform cannot be the basis of your acceptance. This is a particular challenge for parents and children as the school year begins. School is about performance.  Report cards and grades are the measure of success. There are tests to be taken and teams to tryout for. But evaluating performance is not the measure of a child’s worth. No.. read more

Words that bring life

Posted on September 27th, 2016 · Posted in Communication, Criticism_

The wise man (including the wise child) is motivated by the fear of God and the pursuit of wisdom (Proverbs 1:7; 3:11-18).  This is an important lesson for children to grasp. For example, a little boy who craves praise may well grow into a husband who will be angry and disappointed when he is not constantly praised. He can easily be prone to self-pity. This can lead to a man who will be withdrawn, sullen, or even abusive.  Similarly, a young woman who lives for the praise of others, becomes.. read more

How to find friends you can trust

Posted on March 21st, 2016 · Posted in Communication, Criticism_, Proverbs, Wisdom

Failure to discern who is a genuine, true friend and who is not, leads to being manipulated and used. This may result in, among many other things, bitterness and a crippling inability to trust others. The Holy Spirit has provided tools in Scripture to help you recognize genuine friendship. This is an essential life skill for you and your children. The Proverbs offer reliable observations about friendship.  For example look at Proverbs 12:18: “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” These.. read more

Sex is designed by God for Marriage

Posted on July 4th, 2015 · Posted in Criticism_, Current Events, Marriage, Teenagers

“This is where you must start in teaching your children about sex. Sex is not fundamentally a biological, physiological activity. Sexuality is a necessary aspect of God’s purpose for man to occupy and control the earth for the glory of God. (Genesis 1:26-28) All of the physiological phenomena that happens to the human body while engaging in sexual activity is expressly designed by God to remind husbands and wives that they have been called to unity, intimacy and procreation in their mission to have dominion over the earth. Sexual activity.. read more

Emphasize excellence

Posted on May 31st, 2015 · Posted in Communication, Criticism_, Parenting

The Christian life is so much more than avoiding negative things. It is primarily about engaging in thoughts and activities that bring honor to God. In Philippians 4:8-9, Paul urges Christians to focus on things that are excellent and praiseworthy. Here are two practical examples of doing this: Two young children are fussing and complaining. Negative response: “Why can’t you two just be quiet! Being noisy and fussy is a distraction to everybody in this house. I don’t want to hear any more unpleasantness, and I mean it! Do you.. read more

I don’t like correction!

Posted on January 24th, 2015 · Posted in Communication, Criticism_, Wisdom

I don’t like correction. There I said it. I like to be right. More importantly, I like it even more when you think I am right. By openly admitting these things I have also shown a propensity for stupidity. This is but another reminder of the danger of being wise in my own eyes. If I care most about being right, I care most about myself. This is not wisdom but stupidity. If I am to learn, I must first love discipline and rebuke. When I recoil at the correction.. read more

Be defensive first, ask questions later – not the best idea

Posted on August 13th, 2014 · Posted in Communication, Criticism_

“That’s a bad idea! How could you think of something that awful?” “That’s a pretty good job. But you know, if you just did this one part a little bit more carefully, it would be really great.” “That stinks!” “That is not what I told you to do.” “Well, maybe next time you’ll do better.”   The five examples of criticism listed above are painful to read and even more painful to hear. Hearing someone’s unkind and unfair criticism does indeed present a trial and a challenge.    From a.. read more

Don’t fear the criticism of others!

Posted on February 18th, 2014 · Posted in Communication, Criticism_, Shaping Influences

The Gospel and Criticism

Posted on October 18th, 2010 · Posted in Communication, Criticism_

“That’s a bad idea! How could you think of something that awful?” “That’s a pretty good job. But you know, if you just did this one part a little bit more carefully, it would be really great.” “That stinks!” “That is not what I told you to do.” “Well, maybe next time you’ll do better.” The five examples of criticism listed above are painful to read and even more painful when you are on the  receiving end of them. Hearing someone’s unkind and unfair criticism does indeed present a trial.. read more

Families on the Move

Posted on October 15th, 2010 · Posted in Communication, Criticism_, Gospel

In 1908 Henry Ford began to mass produce the Model T Ford.  For the first time, powered transportation became an option for everyday life. At first, the lifestyle changes for the general public were small. But in the 100 years that have passed since the Model T began production it is now difficult to imagine life without “wheels”.  Whether the destination is across town or across the state, we have only to find the keys and go.  The reality of quick, convenient travel has become part of our culture.

Criticism – Something to Value

Posted on March 18th, 2008 · Posted in Criticism_, Parenting, Proverbs

11 My son, do not despise the LORD’s discipline   and do not resent his rebuke, 12 because the LORD disciplines those he loves,   as a father the son he delights in. Proverbs 3:11-12 Criticism would make few top 10 lists of favorite gifts. While the Proverbs don’t use the term criticism, there are many passages that talk about receiving a rebuke. Almost surprisingly, the Proverbs teach that receiving a rebuke is often a good thing. Chapter 9 goes so far as to say that a wise man will.. read more

Preparing Your Children for Criticism

Posted on March 11th, 2008 · Posted in Criticism_, Parenting

Like a coating of glaze over earthenware        are fervent lips with an evil heart. Proverbs 6:23 A lying tongue hates those it hurts,        and a flattering mouth works ruin. Proverbs 6:28 Let another praise you, and not your own mouth;        someone else, and not your own lips. Proverbs 27:2 Wounds from a friend can be trusted,        but an enemy multiplies kisses. Proverbs 27:6 The section of Proverbs from   6:23 – 27:6 has some profound things to say about.. read more