Marriage

35 posts

Where has marriage gone?

This week FoxNews cites a study that shows that 48% of all first time births in the United States are out of wedlock. Also this week, the Governor of Colorado signed a bill into law that repealed adultery as a crime in Colorado.    Whatever moral compass we have had has clearly ceased to function. We no longer know what side is up. These events indicate the growing rejection of God’s authority in social matters.    We must strive to make God special, precious, and desirable to our children. We must teach what awe and fear have to do with God. If we are to lead our children though this moral mess, the light of God must shine brightly above […]

When Sinners Say "I Do" DVD

Valentine’s Day – The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly

There is a side to Valentine’s Day which is good. The good of Valentine’s Day is an opportunity to express love for each other.  I Corinthians 13 is a good guide here. It is good to let someone know they are loved and appreciated. A smile, a card, warm appreciation accompanied by flowers, chocolate, or other seasonal gift says you are special in a good way. Married couples can find other good ways to appropriately celebrate the day. So, in this sense – Happy Valentine’s Day! But, there is another aspect of Valentine’s Day that is bad.This is the “give to get side.” Commercials proclaim – give the right gift and be rewarded. The reward of course is sex. Culturally, […]

Children Must Be Trained Before They Can Be Enjoyed

The purpose of the family is 1) to maintain and nourish the one-flesh relationship between husband and wife, and 2) to prepare children to leave the home of their parents and establish their own home. The family does not exist for itself. Genesis 2:24 teaches that the husband-wife relationship does not exist primarily for children. Children are only temporary residents. A husband and wife are to remain together after the children have left. Parents, note this well: God wants your children to leave home. They are to move on. Parents are the ones who stay put.   When children become the primary purpose of family life, the focus of parents shifts to the enjoyment of children. Children become an end […]

Meekness

Meekness is being willing to give up my rights in order to put others first. Meekness waits for God to bring about justice. Psalm 37:10-11 A little while, and the wicked will be no more; though you look for them, they will not be found.  But the meek will inherit the land and enjoy great peace.   From Get Wisdom

Preparing Eight-Year-Olds for Marriage

Before anyone misunderstands me—let me say that this post is not about pre-marital instructions for children, at least not explicitly. Neither is this post about arranged marriages! No, this post is about friendship and its connection to marriage. In Tim Keller’s excellent book, The Meaning of Marriage, he draws out the importance of friendship in marriage. I believe Keller has made an important observation, both for those interested in becoming married and for parents seeking to train their children to live for God. Christians are not to think or act as the world does. We are to be transformed, not conformed, in our thinking. We are to take thoughts captive, not be taken captive! But that’s a bit tricky, isn’t […]