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Tedd Tripp introduces the LifeLine Mini-book series

Posted on June 27th, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires, Sanctification

  Shepherd Press is pleased to announce the publication of the Lifeline Mini-book series. These unique books, larger and more robust than the typical counseling book, are still pocket-sized resources. Lifeline mini-books are a gospel-centered series written by people who are in the trenches of ministry. Each mini-book is practical and accessible, written for the person in the pew as well as for pastors and counselors. The mini-books address a broad range of Christian life and counseling issues, such as abuse, addiction, anger, finances, grief, qualities of a good church,.. read more

Unintended Consequences & Immediate Gratification

Posted on June 24th, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires, Sanctification

The desire for instant gratification comes with a set of blinders at no extra charge. If what I want is what I want and I must have it now then there is little or no thought given to what happens when I get what I want. Blinders result in being blindsided. David gave no thought to what would happen after he had Bathsheba. Amnon could focus only on Tamar and never stopped to think that his lust would cost him his life. Ananias, with his wife Sapphira, thought only of.. read more

I want it now!

Posted on June 23rd, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires

The demand for instant gratification is destructive. This pattern, if not stopped, will result in a life dominated by the desire for immediate gratification. Immediate gratification is the gateway to a life of destructive, abusive relationships, pornography, substance abuse, abusive behavior. If you hear your child frequently complain or grumble,  you are hearing a child who is becoming a slave to his own desires. Sin feeds on the desire for immediate happiness. That is why a child can go from seeming bliss to outrage in an eye blink. One moment.. read more

Christ and consequences

Posted on May 8th, 2014 · Posted in Parenting, Ruling Desires, Teenagers

Here is an example of a conversation with a dad and his 15 year old son. Dad has discovered his son is viewing pornography online.  The conversation is a composite one. It might take several talks to get things resolved as they are in this example. But the content and the responses are drawn from real life situations  There are consequences for the son as well as Dad presenting Christ.    “Justin, we have to talk about the images you were viewing on the computer.”   “Dad, I really don’t.. read more

Consequences are not enough

Posted on May 7th, 2014 · Posted in Parenting, Ruling Desires, Teenagers

There is a problem with consequences in dealing with behavior. They are not enough. They will not bring change to the heart. What your children need is the gospel – they must learn Christ! That is the point. Severe consequences may yield a change in behavior, but darkness will still rule in the heart. Let’s be clear. Paul says there are only two ways of living or thinking. One way is to follow the natural path of darkness that all people are born with (Ephesians 2:1-3; 4:17-19). The other way.. read more

Help your children to want what God wants

Posted on May 6th, 2014 · Posted in Parenting, Ruling Desires

A young child may reason that a cookie will make her happy. The desire for the cookie overrides the command from mom not to have the cookie till after supper. On the surface this appears to be a simple matter of behavior. The desire for the cookie wins out over obedience. However, on the heart-level, complex patterns are at work. We are born with a nature that is at war with God. Romans 1 also tells us that this sinful nature actively suppresses the truth of God. The unseen and.. read more

Confidence comes from desiring God

Posted on April 22nd, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires

Confidence for you and your children comes from desiring God. Proverbs 3:5&6 is a familiar passage that warns against trusting yourself and your own understanding. Verse six links trusting God with acknowledging God in every thing you do. Here are the verses:   Trust in the Lord with all your heart,     and do not lean on your own understanding.   In all your ways acknowledge him,     and he will make straight your paths.   The depth of the word translated “acknowledge” is lost in many translations. One respected commentator translates verse.. read more

A forgotten Easter story

Posted on April 17th, 2014 · Posted in Gospel, Ruling Desires

You are familiar with the last supper. You know of the drama in the garden of Gethsemane. You are grieved when Judas betrays his Lord and Christ is handed over for trial. But there is another story of Jesus’s last night that we don’t remember so easily. It is an embarrassing story about what our hearts are really like. Just after the Lord’s Supper and just before Jesus goes to the garden to pray, there arose an ugly dispute between the disciples. I would like to say that if I.. read more

“I have eagerly desired…”

Posted on April 16th, 2014 · Posted in Gospel, Ruling Desires

On a Thursday evening, 2,000 years ago, Jesus Christ had come to the end of his time on earth. After 33 years of perfect obedience, less than a day remained of his time on earth. It would be a time of crushing temptation and agony. Everything that Christ had accomplished in his life came down to these final hours. From those to whom he had been the closest he would see jealousy, greed, betrayal and abandonment. From the Enemy he would again know temptation—though this time, he would not be.. read more

Lying to God

Posted on April 8th, 2014 · Posted in Lying, Ruling Desires

This is a unique danger for children raised in Christian homes: lying to God. In Acts 5 Ananias and his wife Sapphira attempted to make themselves appear more spiritual than those around them. The made a show of being holy by misrepresenting the truth. Peter said, “What made you think of doing such a thing? You have not lied to men but to God.” They paid for their lie with their lives. Here is an example of how this pattern of lying to God starts. One sibling sees that his.. read more

Breaking News: Toddlers are People!

Posted on March 29th, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires, Toddlers

Toddlers are people. They may be small. They may have a limited vocabulary. They are immature. But the bottom line is – they are people. This means they make decisions about what they think they need,. Just like you, it is their interpretation of their circumstances that determines how they respond to problems.  If your toddler sees that a sibling has his favorite toy,  his immediate interpretation may be that something is very wrong with the world. Let’s put this in perspective. Your toddler thinking he has lost his prized.. read more

When your kids hurt you, trust God!

Posted on March 15th, 2014 · Posted in Parenting, Ruling Desires

Parents, when your children sin and they are not respectful to you, how do you feel? Do you focus on how painful it is to be disrespected? The most natural, ordinary response is to consider the disrespect an offense against yourself.  You might well respond in anger and frustration. This is what ordinary parents do. You might get angry at them. You might just let your children know how painful this is for you. You might yell. You might walk around in silent pain. You might tell your kids they.. read more

Anger: Giving in to the enemy

Posted on March 3rd, 2014 · Posted in Anger, Communication, Ruling Desires

Just to be clear, I understand there are times for righteous anger. We could stand to experience more of this type of anger. But this post is not about righteous anger. It is about the anger that deceives, that makes you think your anger is justified, something to feel good about.  So when a child, a teenager, a spouse, or a coworker crosses an arbitrary line we feel totally justified in letting them “have it.” We cover our sin by saying, “I know I shouldn’t be angry, but sometimes you.. read more

How hard would it be if your child always obeyed?

Posted on February 21st, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires, Sanctification

Parent, how hard would it be for you to have a son who always did what you asked him to? Even as a teenager he would have a reputation as a fine, moral young man. He would be respectful to you, his parents. He would make wise use of his time. Everyone would compliment you on your obedient son. They would wish their children were just as obedient. How hard would it be? Are you starting to fantasize about how great this would be and how much easier your life.. read more

Anticipation – the fuel of lust

Posted on February 11th, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires, Teenagers

Lust is a sin that dominates and never satisfies. This sequence is not random. Dissatisfaction is an intended consequence of lust that was designed by the enemy of your souls. Remember that Amnon was consumed by his sinful desire for Tamar. Yet, after he had acted upon his desire and taken her, instead of being satisfied, he was filled with hatred. The Holman Christian Standard Bible translates verse 2 Samuel 13:15 this way: After this, Amnon hated Tamar with such intensity that the hatred he hated her with was greater.. read more

Justice and your children

Posted on February 3rd, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires, Sanctification

Children are born with a sharply defined sense of justice. The problem comes when justice is deployed as a weapon of self-defense. As in – “I hit her because she hit me first.”  “I took the toy because he had it all morning.”  Yes, justice. Our kids can be all about justice applied to others, but not so much for themselves. If left unchecked the quest for personal justice can ultimately lead to destruction. Feelings that one has been wronged can lead to heart-patterns of vengeance and self-pity. The personal.. read more

Help from Romans 8 – Controlling your fear

Posted on January 25th, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires

Here is a brief application from Romans 8 that teaches Christians do not have to be controlled by fear.   Christians need not fear condemnation. verse 1   Christians are not controlled by the flesh but by the Holy Spirit. verse 9   Christians are not slaves to fear, but to the Holy Spirit. verse 15   If you rely only on what is seen you will be controlled by fear. verse 24   If you rely on what is unseen, you have hope. verse 24   Even in your.. read more

The Heart Matters by Tedd Tripp

Posted on January 24th, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires

Solomon describes the importance of the heart in Proverbs 4:23:   “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” The heart is like an artesian spring. All our hopes, dreams, and desires gush from the heart. Every drive for meaning and significance originates in the heart. Our behavior flows from the heart—it isn’t caused by circumstances or other people. The heart, with its passions and desires, is the wellspring of life.   Recently, Radio Shack had a sale on little matchbox-size remote control cars. “What.. read more

Avoiding disappointment Christmas morning

Posted on December 2nd, 2013 · Posted in Holidays, Ruling Desires

December is here and that means Christmas gifts. Gift giving is a double edged sword. When a gift is given that is a delightful surprise or a longed for treasure, all is well. The giver is happy, the recipient is thrilled, the tree seems  to be bigger and brighter. But when the gift that was desired does not appear, the tree is somehow not as pretty and spirits are dampened.  A cloud hangs over the festive atmosphere of Christmas Day. And, of course, the disappointment of the missing  gift is.. read more

Don’t invest in counterfeit gifts on Black Friday

Posted on November 26th, 2013 · Posted in Ruling Desires, Shaping Influences

Something is counterfeit if it appears to be genuine but is not. The problem with counterfeit money is that you can use and spend it and often the recipient will not recognize it for what it is. Then one day you attempt to use what is counterfeit with someone who knows what is genuine. Not only do you not get what you wanted but the fake money you have is forfeit as well.   Gift giving can be counterfeit or it can be genuine. Giving gifts to others can be.. read more