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Teenagers: rebellion or challenged relationships

Posted on October 12th, 2015 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

Jesus was talking to the religious establishment of his day. These leaders should have recognized the Jesus they saw before them. However, they expected a different Jesus. They expected a messiah who would meet their standards and honor them in their hypocrisy. They assumed they would be respected as leaders, that Jesus would acknowledge their wisdom. Jesus did just the opposite. He told them two parables to illustrate their weakness. Sadly and predictably, the establishment crowd continued in their ways, and after hearing the second parable they began to look.. read more

Don’t miss perceived injustice in your teenagers

Posted on August 27th, 2015 · Posted in Gospel, Teenagers

Even teens who appear to be mild and compliant to others can engage in hard-fought battles at home. At the root of many of these battles is a deep-seated perception that they, the teens, are being treated unfairly. When a teenager, or anyone else, focuses only on the injustice that has been done (either real or perceived), his ability to trust God is blocked. Struggling with unjust treatment leaves anyone weary and burdened. The weight of injustice is more than we can bear in our own strength. For example, Absalom.. read more

Self-protection, a destructive response

Posted on August 12th, 2015 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

When someone attacks you, particularly someone close to you, your first response is likely self-protection. If it is, things will go from bad to worse. For example, your 14 year-old says: “All you care about is your stupid rules! You care about your rules more than you do about me! Thanks, a lot for not caring.” You feel hurt, disrespected and defensive. Your child is unable to appreciate the good you are trying to do. The defensive, natural response is to tell your teenager how wrong they are. Your teenager.. read more

Teenage lives matter

Posted on August 4th, 2015 · Posted in Teenagers

The world’s culture appeals directly to the flesh. It does not ask permission from parents to tempt their teenagers. Apart from the work of the Holy Spirit, the flesh is an intimate gateway for the world’s temptations. The message that the world gives seeks to discredit the biblical message that Christian parents offer. Galatians 5:19-21 & Proverbs 9 teach that the teenager’s flesh willingly listens to the world’s message of subversion. Parents, you must be aware of this warfare! Your call for your teenagers to be pure may be met with.. read more

Teenagers and short answers

Posted on July 20th, 2015 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

You observe your teenager talking a mile-a-minute with friends. Then you think about the typical conversations that you have had with your son or daughter. Instead of a lively back and forth your attempts at conversation tend to collapse into strained monosyllables.: Did you have a good day? Sort of.
    How was your test? Okay. Do you have homework? Maybe.
    Do you have plans this weekend? Not sure.
    Is anything bothering you? No.
    Did you clean your room? Not yet.
    I thought maybe we could talk later on. Why.
    What.. read more

Sex is designed by God for Marriage

Posted on July 4th, 2015 · Posted in Criticism, Current Events, Marriage, Teenagers

“This is where you must start in teaching your children about sex. Sex is not fundamentally a biological, physiological activity. Sexuality is a necessary aspect of God’s purpose for man to occupy and control the earth for the glory of God. (Genesis 1:26-28) All of the physiological phenomena that happens to the human body while engaging in sexual activity is expressly designed by God to remind husbands and wives that they have been called to unity, intimacy and procreation in their mission to have dominion over the earth. Sexual activity.. read more

A conversation with a young teenager

Posted on February 26th, 2015 · Posted in Communication, Gospel, Shaping Influences, Teenagers

“Stop bothering your sister.” “Why?” “Because it is not nice to do that to her.” “Well, she is not nice to me. Why should I be nice to her?” “God says you should be nice to her.” “Well, then, you should tell her that. If she starts being nice to me, I’ll be nice to her. Its not like I am hurting her or anything.” “But that is not how it works. You should do what God wants no matter how your sister responds.” “So, what do I do when.. read more

Refuge or Adversary

Posted on January 13th, 2015 · Posted in Gospel, Teenagers

Parents, it is your choice. You can be your child’s adversary or you can be his refuge. Someone might be thinking, “Wait a minute, my teenager is the adversary, not me. And if he wants refuge, then he needs to start acting like he wants that!” As a father of five children, I hear you. But stay with me. Teenage life can be challenging. The impact of a Godless culture, education that is rooted in pragmatism, sexual immorality being peddled as tolerance and bodies morphing into young adults is a.. read more

Drug Abuse – What To Look For

Posted on November 12th, 2014 · Posted in Parenting, Teenagers

Proverbs 18:15 teaches that the ears of the wise seek out knowledge. In other words, not everything that you need to know as a parent will be handed to you on a silver platter, wrapped in a bright warning label that says “Danger, check this out.” Sometimes the warning signs are subtle. Thus, they can easily get lost in hectic pace of life. Teenagers just getting started with drug abuse often fit into this category. Drugs are readily available today, sometimes teenagers need only your own medicine cabinet to get.. read more

Thinking about your teenagers

Posted on November 7th, 2014 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

Philippians is a book that talks about resolving conflict. In Chapter 2 we find the following admonition: Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. From these words we learn that considering others to be more significant than we are is essential to heal the wounds of conflict. Of course, when we do experience conflict, considering the other person as more significant than ourselves.. read more

Consequences or love of God – what motivates your teenager?

Posted on October 23rd, 2014 · Posted in Teenagers

It is no secret teenagers face powerful temptations.  Parents want to make sure that consequences are in place to help protect their children. It is good to put deterrents in place for behavior that is unacceptable and sinful. But, for your teenager, still it comes down to that moment of decision; is the consequence enough to make a difference?   For example, Kevin, a young teenage boy has an opportunity to be alone with Tiffany, a girl with a reputation for being sexually active. If he thinks that he might.. read more

A question for teenagers, do you believe that God knows your thoughts?

Posted on October 21st, 2014 · Posted in Teenagers

This is a serious question for teenagers! Not looking for any adult pleasing answers, just what you really think. And as a follow up question, does it matter to you if you think he knows what is going inside your head?   I think the answer to these questions is really a big deal, for you and for God. Based upon your answers I will put together some posts that attempt to deal with your answers and come up with some more questions.    Thank you for considering this. I.. read more

Help! My Teen is Rebellious

Posted on September 18th, 2014 · Posted in Mini-books, Teenagers

A small book offering Biblical counsel to parents of rebellious teenagers. Dave & Judi Coats were stunned when their teenage daughter said to them, “You are not going to tell me what to do!” Struggles with their teens drove them to their knees in prayer and to the Word of God for answers about teenage rebellion. Here they share the truths they discovered, the practical advice that helped, and the hope they found in the power of the gospel and God’s grace to change. Intended Readership: Parents and families of.. read more

Flee and Pursue

Posted on September 8th, 2014 · Posted in Teenagers

Indulging sensual desires has become an entitlement for young people.  The message is loud and persistent: You can have it. You can have it now. You deserve it. Advertising that targets our nation’s youth is built on these three components of youthful desires or lusts. A cultural shift has occurred. It is one that is based on gratifying youthful desire. Having sex outside of marriage is the new social normal. Virginity is an indication of a dysfunctional personality.  The notion of drinking responsibly doesn’t mean restraint, it means finding a.. read more

Help your teenager to ask the right question

Posted on September 2nd, 2014 · Posted in Teenagers, Wisdom

An unexpected temptation arises in the life of your teenager.  He or she was not planning to make a life-altering decision, but the moment arrived nonetheless.  When this moment occurs, your teenager will ask one of two questions:   “What am I going to do?”   “What does God want me to do?”   Joseph was confronted by a passionate and powerful woman demanding to have sex.  He was alone in a pagan land.  Rejecting the advances of this woman would surely bring unpleasant consequences. Yet he had just one.. read more

Teenagers, frustrations and short answers

Posted on August 26th, 2014 · Posted in Communication, Shaping Influences, Teenagers

You observe your teenager talking a mile-a-minute with friends. Then you think about the typical conversations that you have had with your son or daughter. Instead of a lively back and forth your attempts at conversation tend to collapse into strained monosyllables.:     Did you have a good day? Sort of.     How was your test? Okay.     Do you have homework? Maybe.     Do you have plans this weekend? Not sure.     Is anything bothering you? No.     Did you clean your room? Not yet.     I thought maybe.. read more

Wise words from James regarding your teenagers

Posted on July 2nd, 2014 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

Be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger.    Jesus tells the story of a father and his two sons. The father asks his first son to go work in the vineyard. The first son responds with a defiant no. So, the father asks his other son the same question.  This son, in sharp contrast, respectfully says that he will do what his father asked.   So, on the surface of things, it appears one son is rebellious and one is obedient. This much is true, but not.. read more

Broken Rules, Broken Relationships

Posted on June 26th, 2014 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers

Biblical grace is the strongest possible deterrent to sin. For parents this means if rules become more important than your relationship with your teenager you lose the opportunity to display grace. In other words, a broken rule must not result in a broken relationship!  In my life, the times that I have been most appreciative of God’s grace are the times when I have been most aware of my sin.  Is this true for your teenager? When you address their sin are you most interested in showing grace or reminding.. read more

Your Stupid Rules!

Posted on June 25th, 2014 · Posted in Communication, Teenagers, Wisdom

“All you care about is your stupid rules! You care about your rules more than you do about me! Thanks a lot for not caring.” With these words your 14 year-old storms back to her room. Sadly, this exchange is not unusual. Parents want to protect their children. Their teenagers don’t think they need protection. The parents make rules. The teenagers think the rules aren’t helpful and say so. The parents feel disrespected. The teenagers feel abandoned. The parents tighten up on the rules. The teenagers are convinced the parents.. read more

Jessica’s Decision

Posted on June 19th, 2014 · Posted in Culture, Teenagers, Wisdom

Fifteen-year old Jessica is a good student and popular with teachers and students. One day a teacher notices that Jessica seems down. She asks Jessica if she can help and Jessica shrugs her shoulders and walks off. Later in the day, this same teacher again sees that Jessica is still down. She puts her arm around her and walks with her to one of Jessica’s favorite teachers, a guidance counselor who also happens to teach the health class on sexuality. Together, they ask Jessica why she is so down. Jessica.. read more