Is your marriage ready for school?

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It is August and summer is practically over. It is time to get ready for school again. There are multiple lists to check: clothing, textbooks, supplies, transportation, after-school activities and more. You know the drill.  However, there is one important matter that you don’t want to overlook – your marriage.

The challenges of school are hard on a marriage. Time, relationship,and communication  can be consumed by the demands of school.  The relationship between mom and dad can easily shift into one where scheduling and time pressure become the main focus.

Is your marriage ready for school?

Don’t be afraid to ask the question.  Fathers should take the leadership role here. Mothers, though, should not hold back from encouraging this conversation. Spend time with each other. Talk about the challenges of the new school year and how you will meet them. Most importantly, talk to each other about how you are doing. Is this coming year a transition year, one where there there are new teachers, new schools, perhaps a different house? Talk to each other about the obstacles this new year will bring.

Talk about your relationship. How is it? Are there rough spots, points of tension? Are there unresolved issues from the previous school year? They won’t get better on their own.

This conversation is vital. Pray with each other and for each of your children. Identify the things you need to work on in your marriage. If you are not on the same page as the school year starts, you won’t magically become closer as the school year advances.

Is your marriage ready for school? Invest the time with each other, the Lord and his word to be sure that it is. Getting your marriage ready for school may be the best gift that you can give to your children and to each other!

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Jay Younts
John A. (Jay) Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger, and is a ruling elder serving at Redeemer Associate Reformed Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He has written Everyday Talk, Everyday Talk About Sex & Marriage, Finding the Right Track, the In Touch With Paul stewardship series, and What About War. He has studied and taught about biblical childrearing for 30 years. He and his late wife Ruth have five adult children.