Created for Friendship

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The DNA of Eternity is Relationship. Eternity exists because God exists. God is about the ultimate relationship of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit. Thus, eternity is about relationships. In this context, people were designed for relationships, both with God and with each other. Humans did not evolve into relationships, we are made for them. Specifically, we are designed to thrive in the climate of friendship. In the beginning, these friendships were based on total trust and fidelity. Think of the wonder of the whole planet being united in mutual dependence, submission, relationship, and purpose. That would be nothing short of joy on earth. 

However, because of the fall, we will have to wait for heaven to see that reality. Now we see only glimpses of what could have been in our human relationships. Instead, we daily experience just how tragic and destructive human relationships have become. Despite these obstacles, people are still looking for friendship. But without God, friendship is sought for selfish ends. Without God, people pursue friendships that affirm independence, avoid criticism, and honor acceptance above all else. This formula leaves out the one thing that makes the difference: sacrificial love.

So, James 4:4 that friendship without out God makes you an enemy of God. Yes, we are designed for friendships, but for them to be truly successful, God must be your first and best friend. If the search for friends is pursued for selfish ends, even with good intent, bitterness and brokenness result. A common theme today is disappointment with people. Someone is always letting someone else down. Bitterness characterizes friendships. We were made for friendship–but the only way to find true friendship is to know Jesus Christ. Jesus said as much in John15:15:

I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.

Where are you looking for friendship? Do you trust people first or God? Friendship—it is a profound pursuit, one that is common to all of mankind. Help your children understand that true friendship is first based upon being a friend of Jesus Christ. 

The stories of broken friendships dominate our music, our literature, our culture. The truth is that only in God can we know true friendship. Asking people to provide what can only from God leads to disappointment, hurt, and frustration. But because of the death of Christ and his commitment to bring new life, friendship that endures and heals can be a beautiful, satisfying reality.

God is the author of friendship. Trust him!

 

 

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Jay Younts
John A. (Jay) Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger, and is a ruling elder serving at Redeemer Associate Reformed Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He has written Everyday Talk, Everyday Talk About Sex & Marriage, Finding the Right Track, the In Touch With Paul stewardship series, and What About War. He has studied and taught about biblical childrearing for 30 years. He and his late wife Ruth have five adult children.