Life is about Control

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Humans like to think that we are in control.  Whether you want to control your own life or believe that another person is in control of your life, the conclusion remains: life is about control. The human quest for control always ends in tyranny or depression. The simple truth is that humans were not designed to be in control.

Humans labor mightily for control. Some will continue to fight to be in control. For others, once that battle appears to be lost despair, depression, disillusionment and discouragement settle in. And then there are those in the middle — fighting for control and feeling it slip away.

The quest for control starts at birth. Babies naturally want to be fed, dry and know comfort. When one of these conditions is not met, even infants exert control. Later on, there is a toy that is appealing, someone’s attention that is desired, and yes, feelings of hunger still matter. Wanting control is still huge. Teenagers want control of their time, of how they are perceived, and the lives of those they may be attracted to. There is often resentment of parental control.

Not surprisingly, adults continue to want control over the outcomes of life: things like income, relationships, personal appearance, political elections. And as age moves on the focus shifts to the one issue that cannot be controlled:  how much longer will I live. In the end, it comes full circle; once again control comes down to being fed, being dry and wanting comfort.

The Bible reminds us that control is a God thing!

Isaiah puts the issue of control in sharp focus:

Do you not know?
Have you not heard?
Has it not been told you from the beginning?
Have you not understood since the earth was founded?
He sits enthroned above the circle of the earth…”

The prophet states the foundation of reality – God is in control! Anxiety, depression, abuse, obsession, domination, political squabbles, family arguments, fear of death — these all flow from one source, wanting to do God’s job for him.

Peace and contentment flow from understanding and loving the truth that God is the one in control. Here are two questions you to continually ask yourself and your children:

Who is in control? God.

Who is not in control? Me.

Those who win elections are not in control. Those who trouble your life are not in control. You are not in control! The Lord of the Universe has an exclusive claim on the issue of control.

Isaiah goes on to promise you that God is worthy of your trust and allegiance:

Even youths grow tired and weary,
and young men stumble and fall;
but those who hope in the Lord
will renew their strength.
They will soar on wings like eagles;
they will run and not grow weary,
they will walk and not be faint.

When I am tired and exhausted, seemingly at my end, a soaring eagle may seem like a taunting dream.

But praise God! I am not in control, he is. He alone can deliver on what he promises. The Holy Spirit’s promise in Isaiah is one you can trust and believe in!


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Power Perfected in Weakness

Power Perfected In Weakness

 

Longing for Home

Longing for Home

 

Help! I Can’t Handle All These Trials

Jay Younts
John A. (Jay) Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger, and is a ruling elder serving at Redeemer Associate Reformed Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He has written Everyday Talk, Everyday Talk About Sex & Marriage, Finding the Right Track, the In Touch With Paul stewardship series, and What About War. He has studied and taught about biblical childrearing for 30 years. He and his late wife Ruth have five adult children.