Wisdom From Above for Parents in Conflict

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Another way of stating our mission as parents is that we are to build relationships with our children and with our spouses. You will not successfully do one without the other. James 3:17 is a remarkable summary of what biblical wisdom looks like in the face of conflict. This verse provides what you need to be one who builds relationships that honor God and bless your family. 


I am going to list this verse in bullet point fashion. Consider each point and compare it with how you go about building relationships. The key here is to have the courage to ask your family members how you are doing in displaying wisdom from above. There are six qualities illustrated in this verse of what wisdom from above should be. No one can demonstrate all six perfectly.  Ask your middle school age children, your teenagers, your husband or wife how you are doing in these six areas of wisdom. Don’t be defensive – listen and ask God for the power to show his wisdom, wisdom from above. 


James 3:17


But the wisdom from above:


is first pure, 

then peaceable, 


open to reason, 

full of mercy and good fruits, 

impartial and sincere. 

Jay Younts
John A. (Jay) Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger, and is a ruling elder serving at Redeemer Associate Reformed Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He has written Everyday Talk, Everyday Talk About Sex & Marriage, Finding the Right Track, the In Touch With Paul stewardship series, and What About War. He has studied and taught about biblical childrearing for 30 years. He and his late wife Ruth have five adult children.