And why do you worry … ?

Posted on February 25, 2008 · Posted in Earthly Treasure, Parenting, Worry

28"And why do you worry about clothes?
See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor
was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God
clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into
the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall
we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans
run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all
these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore
do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has
enough trouble of its own.

— Matthew 6:28-34

Last week we examined the exhortation in Proverbs that we
should not wear ourselves out to become rich. Rather, as leaders of our homes,
we should invest ourselves in the things that producing lasting treasure. In
response, some might say, “I am not trying to get rich; I just want to put food
on the table for my family, put clothes on our backs and a roof over our heads.”

Stated this way, worry can take on an almost noble
character. “As the head of my home, I have to be concerned about the basics. I
am not thinking about getting rich. I am
just trying to survive.”
It is a huge temptation for men to allow the
responsibility of providing for their families crowd out responsibilities that
are even more important.

Someone is probably asking—what is more important than
providing for my family? Christ says later in Matthew that the most important
requirement of life is to love God and your neighbor. So your labors for your
family must be done in the context of loving God first. In our passage, Jesus
puts it this way:  “Seek first the  kingdom of God and  his and his righteousness." Providing for your family is certainly an important part of what it means
to seek God’s kingdom, but it is not the major part.

We live in a world that is not stable. Jobs can be lost
overnight through corporate mergers. The economy is uncertain. Our ability to
work may be terminated around the next corner. Yet Jesus still says, “Do not
worry about what you will eat or wear.” He will provide these things for you. He
wants you, instead, to seek life that is truly life (I Timothy 6:19).

Here is one definition of worry: Worry is attempting to take responsibility
for things that can only come from God. For example, God has commanded us as
men to work and in so doing provide for our families (I Tim. 5:8). But in Matthew
6 Jesus is teaching that the food and clothing come from his hand. It is easy
to think that as a man, I go out and earn a paycheck and that is what puts food
on the table. God is so intimately involved in our lives that we easily lose
sight of just how dependent we are on him. The apostle Paul tells the people in
pagan Lystra, “God has shown kindness by
giving you rain from heaven and crops in their seasons; he provides you with
plenty of food and fills your hearts with joy."
So even though these
people worked their fields and harvested their crops, God actually provided the
food on their tables. If this is true for those who don’t know God, how much
more true is it for those of us who do know him?

God has called you to work. But he takes responsibility to
provide the essentials of life like food and clothing. We become worriers when
we are dominated by taking that responsibility upon ourselves. Christ makes a
direct promise that he will provide for our basic needs (vs. 33 above).

This passage helps you to determine
your priorities. Even if
you were able to acquire a large home, have plenty of clothes and food,
have a
substantial savings account and the resources to pursue the good
enjoyments of
this world that interest you, how long do these things last? Do they
have value
beyond the moment? Is it wise leadership to pursue things that, while
good for
the moment, can lose their value in a heartbeat? What is the value of
these
good things of the moment when you find out that your teenager has a
sexually
transmitted disease? What is it that will provide true stability for
your family? This is what Jesus is urging you to pursue in his kingdom.

When we don’t have
time to invest in our children to prepare them for the harsh storms of life
that await them as teenagers, because we think we have to work long hours to
provide food for the table, we are taking on a responsibility that belongs to
God. We become worriers. Your teenagers will be thrown into a culture where sexual
contact, masturbation, and pornography are the norm. The pressure to enter the
flow of the culture is enormous. Language that is destructive to loving God is
what will fill their  minds at seemingly every turn. The music of the teenage culture powerfully points to
self-gratification as the creed of life. How much time are you investing to
prepare your children for this reality that awaits them? Are you depending upon
your children being involved in soccer, dance class, music lessons, Little League
and extra curricular activities to keep them from the dangers of the world? Fathers, are
you perhaps thinking that your wife, or perhaps teachers at church and school,
will be the ones to make a difference in your children while you work to put
food on the table, clothes on their backs and a roof over their heads?

Parents, Christ has given the task
of influencing your
children to you. He has called you to seek first the kingdom of God
and  his righteousness. Is your relationship with your children so
vital that they will look to you to help deal with the pressures of a
teenage culture that
will attempt to pull them away from God to the pursuit of satisfying
their own
desires?

Christ is calling you to exchange the effort that goes into worrying
about things he has promised to give you for the pursuit of his kingdom.  These thoughts again flow from considering the
Godward orientation of your heart. Your children must have this Godward
orientation as they face the attack of the culture around them. This begins
with them seeing if first in you.

Whose kingdom are you pursuing? How much of your self-worth  is tied to providing by your own hard work the
physical necessities that God has promised to give us as we seek his kingdom
and righteousness?  Give this post some
consideration and then let me know your thoughts.

 

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