Gentleness is God’s answer to conflict. Gentleness is the quality you need to present God’s truth fairly, accurately and effectively to your children. Gentleness is part of the Holy Spirit’s fruit which stands in direct contrast to the works of the flesh.
In Proverbs, we learn that gentleness turns aside wrath. Paul tells Timothy to instruct his opponents with gentleness. James describes gentleness as displaying wisdom from above. Jesus describes himself as gentle and humble of heart.
These are five robust examples of the power of gentleness:
- Gentleness stands against the deeds of the flesh.
- Gentleness turns aside wrath.
- Gentleness instructs those who oppose you.
- Gentleness demonstrates wisdom from above.
- Gentleness describes the heart of Christ.
Gentleness is the forgotten weapon of the Spirit in leading children to obey and trust God. It represents the power of God and it is always the appropriate response in addressing the battles of parenting. It is not a sign of weakness but of power. Gentleness is always to be used in administering discipline. It is always to accompany firmness. Not only does gentleness add grace to your instruction and correction, but it is also essential when implementing consequences. The Proverbs teach that pleasant words promote instruction. Gentleness is power for doing what God has called you to do as a parent.
Gentleness is using only the strength or force that is appropriate for any particular situation. The biblical use of discipline is wisdom in action. Instead of anger, hurt or frustration, the Spirit of God calls you to respond with the Spirit’s fruit of gentleness. When you respond with the appropriate force of gentleness, the whole might and power of the character of God is on display. However, when your power is on display it becomes an easy target for your kids and the enemy of your soul to attack and conquer.
Use the Holy Spirit’s fruit of gentleness to lead your children to trust and submit to the power of God. Gentleness uses grace to display the power of God. Be patient with God as you watch the grace and power of gentleness at work.