How attractive is your instruction?

Posted on March 4, 2016 · Posted in Parenting, Shaping Influences

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Parents, you know the day will come when your children will face a situation where they will have to decide in an instant whether or not to give into temptation.

How attractive has your instruction been to your children? Do they perceive your words as precious gifts which adorn their life (Proverbs 1:8-9)? Or has your instruction been dominated by anger, frustration and disappointment with their performance?

Proverbs 6:20-24, has valuable insight. Solomon says that sons, (children) are to cling tightly to their parents instruction. He says in verse 22 this instruction is to become an intimate part of their lives, so much so, that it speaks to their heart 24/7:

When you walk, their counsel will lead you.
    When you sleep, they will protect you.
    When you wake up, they will advise you.

This is influence. The Holy Spirit wants you as parents to think about the time when you will not be there to guide and protect your children. What will be present is your influence. Notice what verse 24 says:

It (referring to parental instruction) will keep you from the immoral woman,
    from the smooth tongue of a promiscuous woman.

This verse is a startling wake up call. The instruction of the parents is to keep children from the powerful attractions of sexual immorality.

What is the impact of your influence in the lives of children? Biblical discipline and training is not just for the moment, but for all of life, particularly, and especially for those moments when you will not be there.

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Jay Younts
John A. (Jay) Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger, and is a ruling elder serving at Redeemer Associate Reformed Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He has written Everyday Talk, Everyday Talk About Sex & Marriage, Finding the Right Track, the In Touch With Paul stewardship series, and What About War. He has studied and taught about biblical childrearing for 30 years. He and his late wife Ruth have five adult children.