Wisdom from above. Wisdom from God. What does it look like?
This one sentence in James 3:17 lists seven facets of the wisdom that comes
from heaven. The first three facets show the radical nature of following God. Let’s look at them one by one. However,
before we start it is only fair to issue a warning to anyone who chooses to
read further. Reading—and then implementing wisdom from heaven—will be
hazardous to your flesh. It is simply not possible to take these words
seriously and continue to live and speak just as you have been doing for years.
The change may be painful, but it is the change of putting off what is old and
destined for destruction anyway, and putting on that which is new and bound for
heaven, where this wisdom originates. If you are not sure that you want the
wisdom of heaven to shake up your life and your parenting, then please stop
reading now. As Jesus told the Laodiceans, and as James stated in the first
part of chapter 1 of his epistle, you can’t have it both ways. It is either
God’s wisdom or yours; wanting both will result in a life of misery and doubt.
If you want the wisdom from God that this verse speaks of, please listen to the
warning James gives:
But when he asks, he
must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea,
blown and tossed by the wind.That man should not think he will
receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he
Okay, are you ready? Have you asked God for courage to keep
going? Good—let’s go for it.
Wisdom from above is, first of all, pure. This means that
what is most important is doing what God wants and only what God wants, for his
glory and honor. There are no mixed motives . Purity speaks of a heart fully
devoted to God and his ways. Your spouse and children must see that your
overriding desire is to have a pure, genuine heart that places God first. Your parenting
must flow from your love of Christ and not your love of self. If you
demonstrate purity, your children will come to see that you are not insisting
on obedience because it pleases you, but because it pleases God.
Next, wisdom from above is peaceable. Think back over the
last week. How has your spirit been with your children, with your husband or
wife? If your family were asked, would they say you have been deeply committed
to peace in your family? Remember, God knows that we are not perfect, so I know
that your track record, even for a week, will not be a perfect one. But even so,
have you been sufficiently committed to peace that those around you would
quickly say that peaceableness has been your goal as you deal with them? If
this is painful, remember that I warned you. But don’t stop now. You have asked
God for the courage to change. He will be faithful to help you. If you want to
practice the wisdom from above you must be about peace – so much so that your
family will see and acknowledge it.
The next facet of God’s wisdom is gentleness. True gentleness
expresses strength, confidence and power. Biblical gentleness is never a sign
of weakness; rather, it is having the wisdom to use only the strength
appropriate to the situation. If you commit to bring to your parenting only
that which is from God, you will develop a deep confidence in the truth of his Word.
Peace follows, because you know that
what you are asking for is what God wants. That is how you become a person of
peace even when you are doing battle for God. If there is purity and peace,
then there can and must be gentleness. But this is gentleness that indicates a
quiet confident strength – you know what God wants and are seeking him for the
power to bring honor to him in spite of your own weakness.
It would be easy to write a lengthy post on each of the
seven facets of wisdom in James 3:17. Perhaps at a later date, I will. But for
now, take a hard, sincere look at godly wisdom. Purity, peace, and gentleness —do
these belong to you as a parent? If not, God will powerfully answer your sincere,
faithful prayer for this wisdom of his from above. It will change your life.
Next we will look at something that I was afraid of for
years as a father of teenagers—I was afraid of being open to reason—not a good attitude,
as I came to learn. But more on this in the next post. As always, I look
forward to your comments.
3 thoughts on “Pure, Peaceable & Gentle”
As always your willingness to tackle the tuff stuff is appreciated.
The wisdom from above is not something we have the capacity to impliment outside of the power of the Living God and more specifically without the leading of the Holy Spirit. Only He is able to live out this wisdom through us.
He is a Great and Mighty God who is not willing to share the spotlight with our flesh, as you have said, and that is were the trouble starts. The battle with the flesh is a difficult one but our God is capable.
Thanks again Jay. May we all seek to parent by His strength and in His wisdom.
I’m not actually writing this as a post to the daily blog, but as a way to get a question answered by the author of the book! I thank you for your current topic on what wisdom looks like in practical ways…and actually I am thankful for this entire blog in that respect! We are working through Instructing a Child’s Heart at our church and I am finding that this blog is such a fantastic resource for practical applications of the big concepts that are presented in the book. I have done some digging and am still at a bit of a loss as to the practical difference between Shepherding a Child’s Heart and Instructing a Child’s Heart. I read Shepherding first and then left the ordering of the video to my father, who ordered Instructing. So now we are on week three of Instructing and I’m wondering if you could possibly give a run-down on what the differences are between the two and if there is reason to watch Shepherding on the heels of Instructing. Personally, I’m thinking I’ll just revisit the book yearly as my children keep passing through new stages, but as a tool for a group at church would there be reason to do both? Thank you so much for your work to bring the framework of the gospel back to the challenge of parenting! Your work has been so incredibly helpful to the project as we muddle our way through!
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