Saying too much means you understand too little

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The Proverbs offer the practical day-to-day help you need to be a loving parent. For example, you want to avoid long admonitions to your children when giving them direction. When lengthy, frustrated words begin to mark your discipline, this usually means that you do not have a good grasp of what needs to be done.

Look at Proverbs 17:27:

The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint,

and whoever has understanding is even-tempered.

This proverb provides good insight. If you understand a discipline situation accurately you will be able to use words that carefully fit the issues at hand. This means fewer words and a calm attitude on your part. This leads to the use of pleasant words that promote instruction. You will actually help your children.  That’s a good thing!


Jay Younts
John A. (Jay) Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger, and is a ruling elder serving at Redeemer Associate Reformed Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He has written Everyday Talk, Everyday Talk About Sex & Marriage, Finding the Right Track, the In Touch With Paul stewardship series, and What About War. He has studied and taught about biblical childrearing for 30 years. He and his late wife Ruth have five adult children.