The tyranny of the immediate – part 2

Posted on July 25, 2013 · Posted in Parenting, Ruling Desires, Wisdom

Immediate gratification comes with a built in set of blinders as standard equipment. If what we want is what we want and we must have it now then there is little or no thought given to the impact of the pursuit of immediate gratification.

David gave no thought to what would happen after he had Bathsheba. Amnon could focus only on Tamar and never stopped to think that his lust would cost him his life. Ananias, with his wife Sapphira, thought only of the acclamation they would receive from people and thought nothing of lying to the Holy Spirit.

These individuals thought only of their immediate cravings. But the desire for instant gratification also comes with a set of blinders at no extra charge. These blinders help keep the focus on the immediate. Which is exactly what the enemy wants!

Parents, it is your job to help take the blinders off for your children, and perhaps, for yourselves as well. You see, if you desire a child that will not embarrass you, then you too have a set of blinders that keep you from seeing the damage that your desire for good behavior is doing to your children.

Instead, be like the father in Proverbs 7 who helped take off the blinders that sexual lust imposes. He took the time needed to warn his son that there is more to sexual sin than a few moments of pleasure. Take the time necessary to build a good relationship with your kids, so that your words will have creditability.

Help your children to remove the blinders. Only the pursuit of biblical wisdom will let them see all that there is to see. Go over the narratives I mentioned above. Show your children the blindness caused by immediate gratification. Help them to see the beauty and safety of self-denial. The world we live in wants it all now. Take off the blinders so that you and your kids can see the world for the death trap that it is.

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Jay Younts
John A. (Jay) Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger, and is a ruling elder serving at Redeemer Associate Reformed Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He has written Everyday Talk, Everyday Talk About Sex & Marriage, Finding the Right Track, the In Touch With Paul stewardship series, and What About War. He has studied and taught about biblical childrearing for 30 years. He and his late wife Ruth have five adult children.