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Words that protect and adorn

Posted on August 21st, 2018 · Posted in Gospel, Proverbs, Wisdom

The process of parental instruction is complete when the truth that is learned begins to protect, build up and encourage the children who receive it.  Merely delivering instruction is not what is honoring to God or helpful to children. Biblical instruction always has the goal blessing the one who receives it. This instruction is not primarily for the benefit of parents.  Rather, the instruction parents give to children is to adorn them. In Proverbs 1:8-9, the Holy Spirit says how your words of direction should impact your children: My child, listen.. read more

5 Proverbs to encourage parents

Posted on March 9th, 2018 · Posted in Authority, Communication, Parenting, Proverbs

Proverbs 16 has important direction for anyone in authority, especially parents. These insights help to establish authority and strengthen your parental authority. Here are some selected Proverbs from this chapter: Commit to the LORD whatever
 you do and your plans will succeed. (Verse 3) This is the starting point. The commitment indicated here is totally to the Lord Lord because of your love for him is the focus of life. This is not so much about achieving a single objective as it is about committing all of your life to.. read more

How to encourage children to despise themselves

Posted on January 27th, 2018 · Posted in Authority, Parenting, Proverbs

It seems like such a simple thing. You ask your child to do something and in response, he quietly keeps playing with his toy. You decide to press on, so you ask again, this time a little more firmly, and then one more time. Your four-year-old grudgingly, slowly does as he was told. You breathe a sigh of relief, no harm done, at least he obeyed. But actually this little boy has taken a step down the road to self-hatred. Solomon warns that those who disregard discipline despise themselves. What.. read more

Proverbs: 3,000 years ahead of its time

Posted on August 7th, 2017 · Posted in Culture, Proverbs, Wisdom

Solomon did not have a web page. He didn’t blog. He didn’t tweet. He wasn’t on on Snap Chat or Instagram. But he can still help you navigate the seas of social media. Here are three important terms to know when using the internet: Verify, Verify, Verify! In the world of social media, little is as it seems. You must verify that what you read and see is not just a half-truth or flat-out deception. Proverbs 18:17 says: The first to present his case in a dispute seems right, until.. read more

Gentle or harsh, wise or foolish

Posted on February 22nd, 2017 · Posted in Communication, Parenting, Proverbs, Wisdom

It is late in the day. You’re tired, no, make that exhausted. Your head is pounding. It’s time to fix dinner. At this moment that seems the equivalent of climbing Mt. Everest in flip-flops and beach shorts. And at this precise moment a dispute breaks out about who has the gaming screen next. So you do the only thing that you seems possible. In a sharp, stern voice that is loud, but not quite yelling, you say: “That’s enough! I’ve had it. You want dinner? Then sit down, give me.. read more

Metaphor or Reality?

Posted on January 24th, 2017 · Posted in Godward Orientation, Proverbs, Wisdom

How do you represent God’s word to your children?  Do you believe the words of God are life to your children or are these words more of a metaphor? Here is an illustration that shows the meaning behind my question. Suppose you gave your child a stack of  twenty one dollar bills. Then you tell your child to take good care of them and they will be a blessing to him. An hour later you see your son playing in the back yard with paper airplanes. Then you realize the paper airplanes were.. read more

How to find friends you can trust

Posted on March 21st, 2016 · Posted in Communication, Criticism, Proverbs, Wisdom

Failure to discern who is a genuine, true friend and who is not, leads to being manipulated and used. This may result in, among many other things, bitterness and a crippling inability to trust others. The Holy Spirit has provided tools in Scripture to help you recognize genuine friendship. This is an essential life skill for you and your children. The Proverbs offer reliable observations about friendship.  For example look at Proverbs 12:18: “The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” These.. read more

When your child says no

Posted on January 16th, 2016 · Posted in Authority, Parenting, Proverbs

It seems like such a simple thing. You ask your child to do something and in response, either by word or deed, she says no. If the day is laid back and the request seems inconsequential, the negative response might even be ignored. But, you decide to press on, so you ask again, this time a little more firmly. Your four-year-old grudgingly, slowly does as she was told. You breathe a sigh of relief, no harm done. But actually this little girl has taken a step down the road to.. read more

Protecting your children & Proverbs 16

Posted on July 11th, 2015 · Posted in Authority, Proverbs

Proverbs 16 provides wise instruction for establishing authority that will protect your children from the attacks of this world. Here are just some of the principals and their applications found in this fantastic chapter. Proverbs 16:3 Commit to the LORD whatever
you do,  and your plans will succeed. This is the starting point. The commitment indicated here is total. This verse is not to be thought of as an instant formula as in: Step one – commit my plan to God. Step two – success for my plan. The commitment mentioned.. read more

Learning whom to trust!

Posted on April 26th, 2015 · Posted in Proverbs

The book of Proverbs provides insight about how to be wise (Proverbs 1:1-7). Proverbs is not primarily a set of rules to follow, but practical wisdom that can be applied to everyday life. This book will teach you and your children to avoid people and situations that will bring harm.  For example, verses 1&2 of Chapter 18 help identify a person who is unfriendly and not to be trusted. Each verse has two lines. The second line compliments the first. So in verse 1 we learn that a person who.. read more

Five Proverbs that will bless your parenting.

Posted on June 4th, 2014 · Posted in Parenting, Proverbs

Proverbs 16 offers key, comprehensive insights about establishing authority on the basis of righteousness; this kind of authority encourages. Here are some selected Proverbs from this chapter: Proverbs 16:3 Commit to the LORD whatever you do,  and your plans will succeed. This is the starting point. The commitment indicated here is total. Commitment to the Lord because of your love for him is the focus of the proverb. This is not so much as achieving a single outcome as it as committing all of your life to honor God. In.. read more

An Open Mouth – the gateway to foolish parenting.

Posted on March 21st, 2013 · Posted in Proverbs, Ruling Desires, Shaping Influences

Sometimes the Bible’s directness takes us by surprise. If my focus is to raise my child using God’s discipline and instruction, then my words will be few, clear, pleasant, direct, convicting, and building. The more I talk the more I run the risk of muddying the waters with my opinions. Proverbs 18:2 is a humbling reality to those of us who use many words:   Fools find no pleasure in understanding     but delight in airing their own opinions.   Ouch, at least for me and maybe some of you as.. read more

Manipulate or Instruct

Posted on February 28th, 2013 · Posted in Godward Orientation, Proverbs

All’s well that ends well is one of those proverbial threads that form the tapestry of conventional wisdom.  In this case the tapestry is threadbare in spots. This thought leads to the idea it doesn’t matter how we get our children to obey as long as they obey. This thinking may well achieve its purpose today, but create serious problems in the years ahead.  Specifically I am talking about the distinction between instruction and manipulation when raising children to live for God.  In it’s truest sense instruction means to teach.. read more

Your Face Matters

Posted on September 14th, 2011 · Posted in Parenting, Proverbs, Uncategorized

Life in the middle of a world that is hectic, demanding, and difficult can weigh heavily on the minds of parents.  Because of this it is easy to forget the impact you have on your children.  Parent, you are your child’s world. Even when your children become teenagers their life centers around their interaction with you, even if that interaction is unpleasant. For younger children, what Mom and Dad think of them is their world.  Proverbs 16:15 makes this point: When a king’s face brightens, it means life; his favor.. read more

When to Talk about Sex & Marriage

Posted on January 21st, 2010 · Posted in Parenting, Proverbs, Shaping Influences

The theme of this series of posts is talking to your children about sex and marriage. As I indicated in the first post of this series, I deliberately keep sex and marriage linked because that is how the Bible presents them. Sex is not designed or intended for self-pleasure. Sex does bring pleasure, but engaging in sex for the primary purpose of fulfilling personal desires is the gateway to lust. As Ephesians 4:17-19 teaches, sensitivity to others (the biblical motivation for sex) is the opposite of sensuality (the self-serving pursuit.. read more

The Wisdom of a Fool

Posted on November 10th, 2009 · Posted in Notes From Tedd Tripp, Proverbs

The title of this post doesn’t make sense. Fools, by definition, are not wise. This is the fourth of Tedd Tripp’s concerns for parents today. The first three concerns were these: grasping the importance of formative  instruction, establishing a biblical view of authority and maintaining biblical communication. The fourth concern is developing the ability to contrast the supposed wisdom of fools with the wisdom of God. The book of Proverbs is the perfect place to see this contrast vividly laid out.

The Bible and Your Children

Posted on March 17th, 2009 · Posted in Godward Orientation, Proverbs

Familiarity breeds contempt. This saying has been around since the days of the early Greeks, some 2,600 years ago.  In a similar vein Jesus observed that a prophet has no honor in his own hometown (John 4:44 ESV ).  What about the Bible? As a reader of this blog, the Bible is no doubt a familiar subject in your home.  But how is the Bible viewed by your children? Before you answer this question, take a moment to think carefully about this verse in Psalm 19:   8 The precepts of.. read more

Wisdom and Gaming

Posted on February 10th, 2009 · Posted in Culture, Gaming, Godward Orientation, Proverbs, Teenagers

As we conclude this series on gaming, there is one more question that remains: Can Christians engage in gaming with a good conscience? The answer, I believe, is yes, given a significant qualifier:  This pursuit must be done with biblical wisdom. Wisdom is the skill that comes from a deep passionate love of God’s truth. You may have been born with intelligence, precocity, and a good memory, but with regard to wisdom, you were born a fool. Wisdom is a skill that may only be acquired through great energy and.. read more

Are You Santas’ Helper

Posted on December 15th, 2008 · Posted in Holidays, Parenting, Proverbs

This post is from last Christmas, but I pray it will be a blessing to your and your family. Listen, my son, to your father's instruction        and do not forsake your mother's teaching. They will be a garland to grace your head        and a chain to adorn your neck. Proverbs 1:8&9 Little children are dependent upon their parents for everything. This includes more than food, clothing and shelter. Children are dependent upon you, parent, for how they view the world around them. The way.. read more

Communicating God’s Goodness to Your Kids

Posted on June 14th, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Parenting, Proverbs

10 For wisdom will enter your heart,   and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.  Proverbs 2:10 Psalm 13 is a tender reminder that God has been good to us. As parents, we long for our children to know his goodness firsthand. How does that happen? This, of course, is the big question—but the starting point is less complicated than you might think. Allow me to ask a question from Psalm 13. Do you believe that God has been good to you?