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Instruction: Blessing or Curse?

Posted on August 10th, 2019 · Posted in Communication, Godward Orientation, Parenting, Proverbs and the Gospel

Most memories of being corrected don’t evoke happy or pleasant thoughts. Often correction means stern or harsh warnings, even when given with the best of intentions. However, in the Proverbs instruction is to be received as precious jewelry, something to be worn with honor. How does this disconnect happen? Why is something that is intended for good and blessing become the equivalent of a curse? Proverbs 16:20-24 provides a guide for how to make instruction valuable. Solomon stresses the obvious, but neglected value of instruction. Those who pay attention to.. read more

Pleasant Words, Healing Words

Posted on July 30th, 2019 · Posted in Communication, Parenting, Proverbs and the Gospel, Wisdom

There is a prescription available that will improve the physical and spiritual health of your family.  This prescription is what the Proverbs call “pleasant words” or “gracious speech.” The Holy Spirit says this kind of talk will bring spiritual and physical health to your family. Failure to use this medicine as directed may result in frustrated parents, children who resist instruction, drained emotions, as well as the physical and spiritual exhaustion for the entire family. Yes, pleasant words are that important! However, there is a heavy cost for this prescription… read more

Are you helping your children to despise themselves?

Posted on January 4th, 2019 · Posted in Discipline, Parenting, Proverbs and the Gospel

Are you helping your children to despise themselves? It is simple thing—you asked your 8-year-old boy to take out the garbage. He doesn’t respond. You reason that maybe he didn’t hear you. So rather than cause a scene, you just ask him later. Then, later comes. So you ask him again, a little more loudly this time. This time he responds and says he will, right after he finishes his game. You tell him you’re good with that and move on. A half-hour later, you see he is still at.. read more

Gentleness is grace and power

Posted on February 27th, 2017 · Posted in Proverbs and the Gospel, Wisdom

Gentleness is God’s answer to conflict. Gentleness is the quality you need to present God’s truth fairly, accurately and effectively to your children. Gentleness is part of the Holy Spirit’s fruit which stands in direct contrast to the works of the flesh. In Proverbs, gentleness turns aside wrath. Paul tells Timothy to instruct his opponents with gentleness. James describes being gentle as displaying wisdom from above. Jesus describes himself as gentle and humble of heart. These are five robust examples of the power of gentleness Gentleness stands against the deeds.. read more

Friend or enemy?

Posted on May 18th, 2016 · Posted in Proverbs and the Gospel, Wisdom

A loving friend is one who cares about you enough to say what is true. This truth may be about dangers you face and even character issues that you need to examine. But failing to be truthful may also have an aggressive, nasty, secretive component of which to be aware. God has provided a way for you to be able to recognize enemies disguised as friends. Proverbs provides the insight you need to protect yourself and your children. Proverbs 27:5-6 combines two real life examples to help you discern between.. read more

Personal Conflict

Posted on May 4th, 2016 · Posted in Communication, Proverbs and the Gospel

The origin of many personal conflicts comes from the inability to distinguish between opinion and objective fact. If it is only your opinion, then ask God for the grace and humility to hear and understand the opinions of others. Maybe they have something of value you need to hear. If it is only your opinion don’t value your own worth so much that you are willing to cause relational damage just to make your point. A fool finds no pleasure in understanding, but delights in airing his own opinion. Proverbs.. read more

Do you have the courage to be gentle?

Posted on February 4th, 2016 · Posted in Anger, Proverbs and the Gospel, Teenagers

A gentle response to an angry or defiant act seems weak and out of place. The Holy Spirit has a different perspective: A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 The Hebrew word for gentle here means the quality of being tender, soft, delicate in substance. This is not exactly the first response that comes to mind when someone you know or your teenager opposes you. There are two natural responses when this happens. Both are equally wrong and destructive. The first is.. read more

The problem with things

Posted on July 6th, 2015 · Posted in Parenting, Proverbs and the Gospel, Worldview

We are often surprised when our children become unhappy with their toys. It is easy to forget that toys are merely things, material things. In this sense we are often like our children. We are surprised when things don’t make us happy. The miscalculation of this age, of any age, is to look for hope without looking for God.  A culture rich with material things is a culture that will be dominated by bitterness and disappointment. Why? Because things never satisfy. Ultimately, they will always disappoint. Your children can have a.. read more

Wisdom without passion is not wisdom

Posted on June 4th, 2015 · Posted in Proverbs and the Gospel, Wisdom

Biblical wisdom is designed to transform lives. As the Proverbs teach, the fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, fools despise wisdom. Wisdom is not neutral or passive. Wisdom thrives on passion and love for God. Take this example from Joseph’s life. The woman provocatively grabbed Joseph’s clothing with such force it was clear that only one thing was on her mind. Joseph’s response was also swift and passionate. He tore himself away, leaving her holding on to his cloak. Such a passionate response is not simply an.. read more

Five Proverbs essential for biblical parenting

Posted on May 28th, 2015 · Posted in Proverbs and the Gospel

Proverbs 16 offers key, comprehensive insights about establishing authority on the basis of righteousness; this kind of authority encourages. Here are five selected Proverbs from this chapter: Proverbs 16:3 – You must be sold out to God! Commit to the LORD whatever
you do,  and your plans will succeed. Your commitment to God must be total. You are committing all of your life to honor God. In parenting this means a commitment to use God’s methods to accomplish God’s purpose. Authority without this commitment is destructive and frustrating! Proverbs 16:11 –.. read more

Listening – it’s the manly thing to do!

Posted on September 20th, 2014 · Posted in Communication, Proverbs and the Gospel

This post is directed to husbands and fathers. However, wives and moms are welcome to read as well. Feel free to pass this on to your husbands. He who answers before listening—        that is his folly and his shame.                                                                                                .. read more

Recognizing the unfriendly friend

Posted on May 28th, 2014 · Posted in Proverbs and the Gospel, Wisdom

The book of Proverbs provides insight about how to be wise (Proverbs 1:1-7). Proverbs is not primarily a set of rules to follow, but practical wisdom that can be applied to everyday life. This book will teach you and your children to avoid people and situations that will bring harm.  For example, verses 1&2 of Chapter 18 help identify a person who is unfriendly and not to be trusted.   Each verse has two lines. The second line compliments the first. So in verse 1 we learn that a person.. read more

The Heart is connected to – Mouth, Eyes, & Feet

Posted on June 5th, 2013 · Posted in Communication, Parenting, Proverbs and the Gospel

Parents you must teach from your heart to your children’s hearts. If your combination of biblical commands and applied wisdom centers on your personal convenience and preferences your instruction will lack power. It will only serve to provoke your children to anger. Remember, wisdom is the skill of applying God’s truth to everyday life situations. The father in Proverbs 7 took God’s truth and skillfully applied it to the sexual temptations that he knew his son would face. By contrast, rules learned by rote have no chance of defeating sexual.. read more

Another Blessing of Obedience

Posted on September 28th, 2011 · Posted in Authority, Parenting, Proverbs and the Gospel, Teenagers, Worldview

Teaching your children to honor God’s authority by obeying quickly and pleasantly has many blessings.  One of these blessings is to learn to avoid the world’s wisdom, no matter how attractive it may appear. For example, there is the lie that there can be safe sex outside of marriage. For those of you who missed it, last Monday, September 26, 2011, was WCD day. WCD stands for World Contraception Day. This year the day was sponsored by such institutions as Bayer Health Care, Planned Parenthood, and at least nine other.. read more

Give the gift of Obedience

Posted on September 21st, 2011 · Posted in Godward Orientation, Parenting, Proverbs and the Gospel

Over the time that your children are in your home you will give them many gifts. Some will be small. Some will be huge. Some will be foolish and unwise. Some will be well thought out.  Some will be unappreciated. Some will be cherished. This is the nature of gifts. The one sure way you can know if your gift is good is if your gift is one that is commanded by God. Parents often don’t think of obedience as a gift. But teaching your children to obey is among.. read more

Is 9/12 safer than 9/11?

Posted on September 12th, 2011 · Posted in Current Events, Proverbs and the Gospel, Wisdom, Worldview

Yesterday was the 10th anniversary of the 9/11 terrorist attacks. Despite rumors and concerns there were no follow up attacks in the United States. Which raises the question – are you safer today than yesterday? We addressed this in the last post – we are only truly safe if we belong to Christ. To help underscore this truth, Proverbs offers some helpful commentary.  Note the relevance of these words.   Discuss it with your children. Thank God for it in your prayers.  The Lord is our confidence. Praise his name! 21.. read more

What does Wisdom look like today?

Posted on August 19th, 2011 · Posted in Proverbs and the Gospel, Wisdom

The last several posts have focused on the excellence of wisdom and the pursuit of wisdom. Anyone who reads the Bible regularly is familiar with Proverbs, where wisdom is highly commended.  But familiarity too often breeds neglect—if not contempt. I believe it is helpful to stop for a moment to consider what the pursuit of wisdom looks like today. To set the stage, here are some basics about wisdom truths:

Joseph Fled—Wisdom & Emotions in Action

Posted on August 2nd, 2011 · Posted in Parenting, Proverbs and the Gospel, Wisdom

We have been looking at how wisdom offers protection from sexual immorality and from the ways of wicked men. In the last post we saw that Joseph acted wisely when he fled from Potiphar’s wife. What caused Joseph to have this immediate, emotional, and wise response to temptation? The answer will help you train your children to live for God in a sinful world. It will help you as well. Several positive factors combine to produce this protection for Joseph. Let’s look at them.

Wisdom Will Save Your Children (and You) from Sexual Immorality

Posted on July 29th, 2011 · Posted in Fear of the Lord, Proverbs and the Gospel

The Holy Spirit makes bold challenges in verses 12 and 16 of Proverbs 2. The Spirit claims that through the pursuit of wisdom, a follower of God can be saved from the power of bad, corrupting company and from sexual sin. Really? How?

Protection from Wickedness

Posted on July 20th, 2011 · Posted in Parenting, Proverbs and the Gospel, Worldview

This post continues the previous theme:  how can we avoid loving the world? In this regard, two important statements are given in the latter half of Proverbs 2. The first statement says that wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men. The second says that wisdom will also save you from the adulterous woman, and by implication, the adulterous man.