Heart Attitudes and Prayer

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Parents, if your desire is to see your children’s hearts become responsive to the gospel, the place to start is with your own heart. Here are 3 core heart-attitudes to cultivate that will help mold your heart to be God’s instrument for presenting Christ to your children. 

The first attitude is humility:  

Humility is the source of the power that you need to represent Christ well to your children.  Humility means that you trust God and follow him. Pride means that you trust yourself and fail to consistently rely on God’s truth. When you don’t rely on God’s direction for parenting you become from friends with the world. In Chapter 4, James warns that this friendship makes you an enemy of God. 

God resists the proud,

    but gives grace to the humble.

Without humility and consciously relying on God’s power you will face the active resistance of God in parenting. This is something to consider when you become frustrated. Humility is the path to knowing God’s power in parenting.

The second is an attitude of grace:

The second heart-attitude to cultivate is a commitment to present the gospel as the basis of your parenting is grace. Obedience is not a prerequisite for acceptance and approval of your children. You must be committed to the gospel.  Biblical discipline is always an appeal to the gospel and never about approval based on performance and obedience.  If your children perceive they are valued based on well they obey, two things will happen:  They will lose sight of the reality that Jesus’ obedience is the only basis of acceptance with God, and you lose the ability to show Christ to your children.

The third is an attitude of constant prayer:

Constant prayer is the third heart-attitude essential for being a faithful parent. This is not just a nice idea, it is the command of the Holy Spirit!  It is a devastating error to distance the Holy Spirit from obedience. The commands of the Spirit in the New Testament are intrusive to the comfortable relationship we have with our flesh. The Holy Spirit is the gracious disrupter separating us from this complacency.  You and I need to be in constant prayer so that we will present obedience in the light of the gospel. Obedience is to be presented as a response to the gospel rather than a means to gain approval and affirmation.

These three heart-attitudes will rock your parenting world:  humility, commitment to grace, constant prayer.

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Jay Younts
John A. (Jay) Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger, and is a ruling elder serving at Redeemer Associate Reformed Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He has written Everyday Talk, Everyday Talk About Sex & Marriage, Finding the Right Track, the In Touch With Paul stewardship series, and What About War. He has studied and taught about biblical childrearing for 30 years. He and his late wife Ruth have five adult children.