Our obedience is a response, it is not a basis of acceptance.

Posted on August 28, 2013 · Posted in Gospel, Parenting

If my obedience does not produce acceptance, then why bother to obey, to attempt to excel? Why bother to obey if I cannot earn God’s favor?

 

I obey because I have been loved and been shown mercy. I obey because I want to see my Savior’s reputation enhanced on earth.  I obey because it means participating in the only thing that truly matters, living for the glory of God.

 

Some might say, “Well that is fine for me, but what about my children who have not yet professed faith? Why should they obey?” 

 

The answer is the same, because obedience that flows from a response to the mercy of God is the only form of obedience that is not in some way self-serving. Living for the glory of God is unnatural. It cannot be accomplished by human effort alone. Mercy-based obedience shows our dependence upon Christ. Loving your little brother when he is truly unlovable can only be done by seeing your own need of Christ first. Obedience that has the goal of living for God’s glory will make the cross a necessity. 

 

No, your children can’t produce this type of obedience in their own strength. This is the point of the gospel – we are in need of Christ to do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.  This is why every call for obedience must also be a call for repentance and embracing the gospel. This is what separates biblical parenting from the what the world has to offer. This keeps Christ at the center of your parenting. This is the type of obedience that is pleasing to God.

 

Don’t settle for the world’s deceptive substitute, which says that obedience means you will be happy; that is merely self-serving. Obedience that is taught with the goal to bring honor to God will drive your children to Christ because it cannot be done in their own strength.

 

Don’t make obedience into something that is self-serving. Make obedience about living for God and his honor. This will allow your instruction to focus on hope rather than performance!


Jay Younts
John A. (Jay) Younts is the Shepherd Press blogger, and is a ruling elder serving at Redeemer Associate Reformed Presbyterian Church in Moore, South Carolina. He has written Everyday Talk, Everyday Talk About Sex & Marriage, Finding the Right Track, the In Touch With Paul stewardship series, and What About War. He has studied and taught about biblical childrearing for 30 years. He and his late wife Ruth have five adult children.