Proverbs 16 provides wise instruction for establishing authority that will protect your children from the attacks of this world. Here are just some of the principals and their applications found in this fantastic chapter.
Commit to the LORD whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.
This is the starting point. The commitment indicated here is total. This verse is not to be thought of as an instant formula as in: Step one – commit my plan to God. Step two – success for my plan. The commitment mentioned here is one of giving your life totally over to God and his ways. This is not so much a single outcome as it as committing all of your life to honor God. In parenting this means a commitment to use God’s methods to accomplish God’s purpose.
Honest scales and balances are from the LORD; all the weights in the bag are of his making.
This couplet stresses the importance of integrity in leadership. Authority should be accompanied by personal integrity. Parents should mean what they say and say what they mean. Forgetting to keep promises made weighs heavily on children. Give careful thought to what you promise.
When a king’s face brightens, it means life; his favor is like a rain cloud in spring.
Your countenance is a huge part of your effectiveness as a parent. Showing appreciation and gratitude for your children must not be neglected. A warm smile directed at your young child is a great encouragement. If all your teenager sees is a worried frown, that will not encourage him to come to you when he is hurting.
How much better to get wisdom than gold, to choose understanding rather than silver!
If you tell your children that serving God and obeying him is the most important thing in life but constantly worry and fret about financial matters you are saying that the financial issues are the ones of most importance. Children are especially adept in picking up on areas of inconsistency. This proverb is an excellent one to check your own heart. What really is important in your life?
Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.
If haughtiness and open frustration mark your parenting, trouble will not be far behind. How do your children perceive your spirit? Showing exasperation with your children is actually conveying a haughty spirit. This will not protect your children but will drive them away from you.
Pleasant words promote instruction.
This is a powerful passage. As James 1:20 says, man’s anger will not bring about the righteous life that God desires. The thoughtful use of pleasant words will richly bless you and your children as well help to establish your authority.
These six guidelines will help make your parenting something that will actually bless and protect your children. May God bless you as you apply them!