Pornography, above all the other horrific damage that it inflicts, is a lie. All temptations are based upon lies. Temptations are lies that cannot deliver what they promise. Pornography is right at the top of the list of the lies Satan tells.
This is what your middle-school aged children and your teenagers must realize about pornography – it is a lie. It is not necessary to explain all the graphic garbage about pornography to teach this truth to your children.
Pornography is Satan’s attempt to bypass marriage in order to gain sexual pleasure. In Satan’s world pornography is the replacement for marriage. Just as Satan offered Eve and Christ alternatives to God’s command, he is offering your children an alternative to God’s design for sex. Eve fell for the lie. Christ answered the lie with the truth.
Satan rules those who are under his control, that is, everyone without Christ (Ephesians 2:1-3). He tells them that serving others is not the way to pleasure. He says that serving yourself is the way to pleasure (Ephesians 4:17-19). Pornography is about one thing – self-pleasure.
While there is much that is important to learn about pornography, realizing that it is a lie that will never satisfy is what your children need to learn first. For teenagers trapped in pornography, they must know they are being played and taken for fools by a dark world and its lord. They must be told that it is a lie; not just that it is bad, which it is. But they must know it is a lie. It will never satisfy. It lies about sexual pleasure. It lies about marriage.
Pornography will destroy those who believe its lies. And it lies about that too.
Have the courage and the compassion to tell the ugly truth about pornography. It is a lie.