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Mercy for the broken

Posted on October 2nd, 2017 · Posted in Current Events, Prayer, Toddlers

Morning brought heavy hearts in America this Monday. At least 50 are dead and hundreds are wounded in Las Vegas and the numbers are still climbing. One man planned to destroy as many human lives as possible. As a country we are overwhelmed with grief, with anger, with sadness. And, once again the haunting question returns: Why? It will take days and weeks for the authorities to begin to give the immediate answers. But ultimately these reasons will not satisfy or heal the vulnerability of our hearts. Just knowing that.. read more

Toddlers, toys and debit cards

Posted on August 31st, 2016 · Posted in Toddlers

Toddlers are people. This means they make decisions about what is important to them, just like you do. And just like you, their interpretation of their circumstances determines how they respond to problems they face. Let’s put this in perspective. You can’t find your debit card. Was it lost or stolen? Is your bank balance secure? Getting that card back is now your highest priority. But, suppose your helpful neighbor is visiting and says to you, “don’t worry, the card is just piece of plastic. Don’t get stressed. It will.. read more

Your toddler’s worldview

Posted on June 24th, 2016 · Posted in Toddlers, Worldview

Toddlers and worldview are not concepts that seem compatible. The image of a 3–year-old doing a google search about worldview brings humor. However, your toddler does have a worldview. It shapes the way he looks at his life. It shapes the way he looks at you as his parent. It may be limited, but it is a worldview nonetheless. He actually expresses his worldview constantly. This worldview is shown in statements like “I’m thirsty. “He took my toy.” “I want a cookie.” “I’m tired.” “I’m hungry.” “I don’t want to.”.. read more

Toddlers are people!

Posted on August 31st, 2015 · Posted in Toddlers, Worldview

Toddlers are people. They may be small. They may have a limited vocabulary. They may be immature. But the bottom line is – they are people. This means they make decisions about what is important to them, just like you do. And just like you, their interpretation of their circumstances determines how they respond to problems they face. Let’s put this in perspective. Your toddler thinks he has lost his prized possession. This may be likened to the concern you have when you can’t find your debit card. Was it.. read more

Making God real to your toddlers

Posted on July 23rd, 2015 · Posted in Communication, Toddlers

How can you make God real to your toddlers? First, God must be real to you. He is always with you. Your heart should overflow with love for him. The next step is to talk about your God 24/7 as Deuteronomy 6:5-7 commands. You want to be so in love with God and his commands that this becomes the focal point of conversations with children. So, how does this connect with toddlers? In the crush of life it is possible to go hours if not days and not talk about.. read more

Breaking News: Toddlers are People!

Posted on March 29th, 2014 · Posted in Ruling Desires, Toddlers

Toddlers are people. They may be small. They may have a limited vocabulary. They are immature. But the bottom line is – they are people. This means they make decisions about what they think they need,. Just like you, it is their interpretation of their circumstances that determines how they respond to problems.  If your toddler sees that a sibling has his favorite toy,  his immediate interpretation may be that something is very wrong with the world. Let’s put this in perspective. Your toddler thinking he has lost his prized.. read more

What is important to a toddler?

Posted on April 2nd, 2013 · Posted in Toddlers

Toddlers are people. If a toddler suddenly realizes that a sibling has his favorite toy, his immediate interpretation might be that something is very wrong with his world. The toddler may burst out crying or he may decide to retrieve his toy even if he has to fight for it. His response flows from his interpretation of his circumstances. For a young child, a toddler, being satisfied is important. Problems arise because, just as with older children and adults, things do not bring lasting satisfaction.    In order to give.. read more

Children and Announcements

Posted on March 22nd, 2013 · Posted in Authority, Parenting, Toddlers, Worldview

“Mommy, I want juice.”   “Not right now, dear. Mommy is busy.”   “But mommy, I am soooooo thirsty.”   “I said, not right now. I have to take care of your little brother.”   “But I want juice. Please, please, please.”   “Oh, alright. But promise me you won’t ask for anything else for awhile, Okay?”   “Yes, mommy. Thank you!”   “Okay, here is your juice.”   “But mommy, it is not in my special juice cup…”   This is an exaggerated example of a Mom who has.. read more

Don’t treat your toddlers as their sins deserve!

Posted on October 17th, 2012 · Posted in Gospel, Parenting, Toddlers

Psalm 103 mercifully proclaims that God does not treat us as our sins deserve.  It is this truth that sets Christianity apart from every other religion.  All paths, except the one leading to Christ, lead to some form of self-justification. This truth has important implications for parenting. It is important that children not be treated as their sins deserve! At first glance, this seems obvious. But, we must ask, how do our children believe they are treated. Words like accountability, responsibility, and obedience can come to be equated with fair.. read more

Parents, do you love questions?

Posted on September 15th, 2010 · Posted in Shaping Influences, Teenagers, Toddlers

If you think that this sounds like a loaded question, you’re right, it is! Toddlers and preschoolers can be prolific question askers. However, it is sometimes a challenge to maintain a high level of interest and enthusiasm to a seemingly unending stream of interrogation.  By contrast, many parents are starved for questions coming from their teenagers beyond the standard ones such as, “can I have the keys?” (If you live in Europe, substitute train pass for keys.) I believe there is a connection with the wearisome, almost detached response frequently.. read more

True Wealth and Toddlers

Posted on March 19th, 2010 · Posted in Money, Toddlers

Have you seen the series of television commercials for an investment firm, with toddlers as the main characters? In the ads, one bright little guy in a high chair extols the virtues of online trading. The ads are humorous and, apparently, effective; one even ran during the Super Bowl. These ads illustrate that one way to leave a memorable impression is to connect an idea, in this case online stock trading, with an image that is both pleasing and absurd. So, while no one truly expects a toddler in a.. read more

What Is Important to Your Toddler

Posted on May 21st, 2009 · Posted in Shaping Influences, Toddlers

Toddlers are people. They make decisions about what they think they need. The Tripps’ observation that children interpret everything that happens to them provides powerful insight into the lives of toddlers. And it is their interpretation of their circumstances that determines how they respond to events. If a toddler suddenly perceives that a sibling has his favorite toy, his immediate interpretation might be that something is very wrong in his world. With that interpretation, the toddler may burst out crying or he may decide to retrieve his toy even if.. read more

Follow up on Adornment and Toddlers

Posted on November 24th, 2008 · Posted in Discipline, Toddlers

Stacy, thank you for your comment. You are certainly not alone in asking this question. First, if you haven’t already done so, I encourage you to read carefully chapter 15 of Shepherding a Child’s Heart. This chapter explains fundamental biblical truth regarding the use of the rod, including the issue you raise. While spanking is essential, it is only one component of a biblical methodology of parenting. Spanking must be practiced in the context of you and your husband daily praying for God’s blessing on your children, and praying for God’s help to be faithful in both preventative and remedial discipline. Also, Deuteronomy 6 makes it clear that God is to be a part of the conversation of everyday life in your family. Talk about the issues you expect to face each day. Pray with your children in advance about areas where their behavior indicates struggles of the heart.
In addition to reading chapter 15 of Shepherding a Child’s Heart, you might want to look also at Chapters 2 and 4 of Everyday Talk. Those two chapters form the background for the post on which you commented. Pleasant words and discipline are an essential combination.
More specifically, let me draw your attention to a comment in chapter 15. On page 144, after noting an up-and-down behavior cycle in his children, Tedd makes the observation: “One day it dawned on us! We produced the cycles.” Your child is not living in a vacuum. His responses are connected to your responses. While he is accountable before God for his sins, it is also true that his world is dominated by his parents. What makes this negative for children on occasion is that parents often live in survival mode—they survive one incident of difficult behavior and just wait and hope that they can survive the next one. Sound familiar??? This kind of relational climate in the home does not lend itself to productive biblical discipline. It is not the setting that Deuteronomy 6 envisions.
The glory and honor of God must be at the center of your home, and you must have a vital experience of relying on God’s help in both good time and difficult times. You recognized this when you were “crying out to the Lord for wisdom.” But it is just as important to take delight in God’s presence when a meal goes well, for example, as when there is disobedience. The Scriptures are designed to give you confidence and joy as you follow God’s ways of living (including discipline). If you are discouraged, down, overwhelmed, or uncertain when you begin the discipline process, particularly when spanking is required, don’t expect good results. The practice of biblical discipline is a blessing and privilege. It weeds out rebellion and discontent, and cultivates the peaceful fruit of righteousness. It is not something to dread. Proverbs 22:15 is a wonderful verse to memorize with your children in this light.
Toddlers have a great capacity to intimidate parents. Soon a parent hesitates to speak a word of correction because she fears it will lead to discipline that does not appear to accomplish anything. All too often, the result from this scenario is an angry, defiant, weepy child and a distraught, bewildered parent who is balancing on a thin line of discouragement and anger. Good times? Not for anyone! So when the precious toddler challenges your authority the next time, you think twice before going down the black hole of discipline again. Parents, this is not what God intends! You must be persuaded that what you are doing is what God wants. If it seems not to be working, don’t doubt God’s methods. Consider whether you are applying God’s principles effectively, and if you are, be patient and persevere. Your spirit must be one of loving confrontation born out of love for God and your child.
Stacey, let me know your response. Thanks for bringing this up. May God use this interchange to help many parents faced with this same situation.

It’s Not Natural – part 2

Posted on June 30th, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Gospel, Parenting, Toddlers

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Ephesians 6:1 It seems that there is actually one more post in this series of communicating the Gospel to your children. Heather, one of our readers, raised an important question about the last post. Here is her comment: You mention that "Heather has been given only one option." Is it ever appropriate to offer a choice? For instance, "Honey, you can either give the train to your brother and find another toy, or you can play with the train.. read more

It’s Not Natural

Posted on June 26th, 2008 · Posted in Authority, Communication, Discipline, Gospel, Toddlers

For wisdom will enter your heart,   and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul. Proverbs 2:10 The wise in heart are called discerning,   and pleasant words promote instruction. Proverbs 16:21 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother—which is the first commandment with a promise— that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. Ephesians 6:1-3 This is the final post in this series about pleasant words and communicating the Gospel. I.. read more

Protection

Posted on April 21st, 2008 · Posted in Communication, Parenting, Teenagers, Toddlers

20 My son, keep your father’s commands        and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. 21 Bind them upon your heart forever;        fasten them around your neck. 22 When you walk, they will guide you;        when you sleep, they will watch over you;        when you awake, they will speak to you. 23 For these commands are a lamp,        this teaching is a light,        and the corrections of discipline        are the.. read more

Worldview Summary

Posted on March 8th, 2008 · Posted in Parenting, Proverbs, Toddlers

When I was a boy in my father’s house,   still tender, and an only child of my mother, he taught me and said,   "Lay hold of my words with all your heart;   keep my commands and you will live. Get wisdom, get understanding;   do not forget my words or swerve from them. Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you;   love her, and she will watch over you. Proverbs 4:3-6 The past three blogs have looked at the issue of worldview and young children… read more

Toddlers, Futile Thinking and the Gospel

Posted on March 7th, 2008 · Posted in Parenting, Toddlers

So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking.  Eph. 4:17 But the way of the wicked is like deep darkness;        they do not know what makes them stumble. Proverbs 4:19 Another consequence of children’s natural worldview is futile thinking. Often parents say things like, why can’t children just do what the Bible says, can’t they see it is for their own good? The answer is – no.. read more

toddlers and worldview part 2

Posted on March 5th, 2008 · Posted in Parenting, Toddlers, Worldview

Doing what comes naturally 17So I tell you this, and insist on it in the Lord, that you must no longer live as the Gentiles do, in the futility of their thinking. 18They are darkened in their understanding and separated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardening of their hearts. 19Having lost all sensitivity, they have given themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more.  Eph. 4:17-19 This passage.. read more

toddlers and worldview

Posted on March 3rd, 2008 · Posted in Parenting, Toddlers, Worldview

Toddlers and worldview are not concepts that appear to be compatible at first glance. The image of a 3–year-old sitting down at a computer to type a paper on worldview evokes humor, not reality. However, a toddler does have a worldview. It may be limited, but it is a worldview nonetheless. This worldview is expressed in statements like  – I’m thirsty, he took my toy, I want a cookie, I’m tired, I’m hungry, I don’t want to. Do you see a pattern here? A toddler’s worldview tends to begin and.. read more